Wednesday, November 13, 2013

am I broken?

I have noticed by reading blogs and speaking with other women as well as watching movies and TV that there is a trait many women share: they cry fairly often. Whether they are happy or sad or mad, tears from the eyes seem to be the norm. The more I pay attention, the more I realize that a lot of women cry pretty often. So of course, I have to sit back and realize - I don't.



I was a bit of a crier as a child. Mostly because I was sensitive and if I got a grade I didn't think I deserved or was with a group of students who got in trouble but felt like I was innocent in the matter, I cried. And I was usually the only one. So maybe that traumatized me into not crying as an adult? I mean, I cried at my wedding. I almost cried during Jim and Pam's wedding on The Office. Someone went into my office yelling at me about how I was going to get the company sued when I worked at my current job for less than a month and that got me pretty teared up. But honestly? I can't remember the last time I really cried.

I'm not sure what is is that makes some people cry easily and some little, if any. "Having a good cry" rarely sounds like a good idea to me. If a person or situation makes me want to cry out of anger or frustration, I always see it as letting that thing win, and let's face it - I want to win! I don't think I'm an unfeeling jerk, but crying just doesn't come naturally to me. I am far more likely to cry over something sappy, but even that is just tiny tears that don't even make it all the way down my cheeks. Am I a mutant? Or so I just have my emotions in check? Am I missing something? Is there really nothing better than a good cry?

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  3. i'm sort of like that. everyone was all over the notebook and into chick lit and i thought that shit was a big ol' snooze fest. i tried to watch serendipity and notebook and 10mins into it, i wanted to gouge my eyes out.

    but anything that has to do with children can make me tear up, though!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  4. damn, blogger posted my comment 3 times so i deleted two of them.

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  5. I don't think you're broken. I go through stages with this. There are years where nothing affects me, I'm cold as ice, baby... and then moments where every stupid little thing has me tearing up like a baby. Hormones? I dunno.

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  6. I WISH I weren't a cryer. I cry over EVERYTHING. I'm like Kristen Bell--if i'm not between a 3 and 7 on the emotional scale, I'm crying. I am proud to say, however, I DIDN'T cry at my wedding. I don't know how that's possible, but I just laughed all the way through the whole thing! Thinking BACK on my wedding makes me cry (ugly cry, friend, out of pure joy) but the day of was just amazingly goofy to me! I think I spent most of nov 2012-march 2013 in a constant state of the ugly cry.

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  7. I only cry if I get really super mad and then you better watch out.

    It doesn't happen often so I rarely ever cry. Maybe I am broken too! We can be broken together and then we will be normal and all those other girls will be the broken ones. :)

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  8. I do not think you're broken! We all have our ways of letting emotions out. You probably just deal with the frustration or sadness differently. I cry a lot, I think too much, at stupid small things and when I get anxiety, but never at happy things or chick flicks. I have noticed in my family that about half of us are cryers and half of us are yellers. Something I might cry over, my dad yells at, it's all our different way of dealing with pain. Maybe you're a silent sufferer?!

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  9. I don't think you are broken that you don't cry! I think everyone is just different. Me? I cry at the drop of a hat, whether it's because I'm sad, mad, embarrassed, annoyed, I watched a sad commercial.. haha

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  10. Girl, you aren't broken!!! You just have more control of your emotions!!!!

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  11. If you are broken, so am I! I rarely cry about anything and just never have. The last time I really cried was when my uncle passed away 4 years ago.

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  12. I tend to cry more when I'm mad than sad, but it's more like a quick burst and then it's over. I don't need to cry it out or anything, haha. But, we're all just different :) Some of my friends cry over everything and I just can't make myself cry over sappy things!

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  13. Is it weird but I cry watching people perform on X Factor? Like I am so happy they are achieving their dreams. I am a freak!! Totally cry as the Sara McLaughlin ASPCA commercials too.

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  14. I'm mainly a frustration crier, and I like to do that stuff ALONE! LOL. I will cry at movies and books though.

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  15. I cry at movies. And of course Jim and Pam's wedding. Ive gotten a tiny bit more sensitive since becoming a mom. But instead of a good cry I'd alwags rather have a good pie. Or drink. Or laugh. But mostly pie.

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  16. Oh I was recently sobbing while reading The Fault in our Stars as well. Good lord.

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  17. Definitely not broken! I used to never cry and until the last 2 years someone turned the water works on.

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  18. i used to NEVER cry. but now i find myself crying over the weirdest things. like episodes of the biggest loser, or holding back tears because my little sister is growing up so fast. WHO AM I?!

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  19. I used to cry every single day and I thought that's just how I was but that was when I was depressed. Now I don't cry nearly as often. Most of the tears I've shed over this year have been while watching sad movies and tv shows. I almost cried while I was on the elliptical last night watching the news about the Philippines.

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  20. Dude, I am totally the same way! My friends even joke with me calling me a robot or whatever. It doesn't bother me at all but I definitely feel like our kind is NOT the norm. I don't really understand how movies, TV shows, even commercials make people cry. I've just never been that way. The only thing that makes me cry is REAL LIFE but only when something is really sad or tragic IE death, breakups, etc.

    Eh, maybe we are just weird ;)

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  21. I think you are better off not being a crier! I can cry at things pretty easily, but I have found that I am pretty sensitive. I cry when my husband hurts my feelings, when something is super sweet, when the damn commercial comes on TV with "Arms of an Angel" in the background and all the homeless and abused dogs. It is really annoying. I wish I could control it better! I don't think you are broken, I think I am!

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  22. Sadly, I cry too much...especially as I get older. I hate it! When I was younger I could never cry. I didn;t like when I couldn't cry like my friends {ha ha} and hate how emotional I am now. Really, I don't think there is a norm :)

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  23. Be happy that you don't cry as much. I am the opposite. I cry ALL the time. Over everything. I have always been like this, but I feel as I get older, it's getting worse. And when I try to hold back the tears - I just get all red and blotchy... not cool

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  24. You are not broken, I think I'm the one broken! Like I have a leak in my tear ducts because I cry about everything! At least you don't have to worry about crying and embarrassing yourself. Once when I was an intern, I cried in front of my boss during a difficult meeting. #shame

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