Wednesday, January 8, 2014

I miss paragraphs

When I first learned about blogging, I read blogs to keep up with these people whose lives I found interesting for some reason. She was wedding planning at the same time I was, she was my age and already had a ton of kids, she had a cool job, whatever. Back then there were stories and glimpses of the woman behind the blog.

It's no secret that I began blogging to make friends. I feel like I have succeeded, but I keep at it because I like it so much. It seems that anything in life that I have or could go through, one of my blog friends has done it - an endless stream of girlfriends to give you advice and support when you might need it. Buddies to gchat and text to get through the work day and people whose blog posts offer you yet another glimpse into their lives.

It seems lately though, that these glimpses are fewer and farther between. I'm not pointing fingers; I've seen it in my own writing. I'm used to breezing through tweets and Facebook statuses, reading a Buzzfeed list while waiting for the elevator, scrolling Instagram at a stoplight. So since I am inundated with quick info throughout the day, I sit down and write quick info at night: bullet points, lists, brain dumps. It's like my mind isn't used to reading prose, let alone writing it. I don't want to discount the work I have put into my own blog - many of my favorite posts are written in such fashion - but it has become less about the writing and more about pressing publish before I go to bed most nights. The quick way is the easiest to get out and for me, the quick way is the easiest way to feel like someone will actually read it. I suffer from a case of TL;DR (stands for too long; didn't read in case you aren't on Reddit very often) as bad as anyone else, but when it's a blogger I love? I will read a novel if they put it in front of me (sidenote: one of my blogger friends SENT me her novel and I read it so this is a proven fact). I like to know what you are thinking and what's on your mind but more than anything, I love the why behind it. I like stories and explanations. You don't have to just give me the Cliff's Notes version. I'll listen for the long haul.

I'm not sure when bullet points and lists became our go-to, but I want to encourage you to not make it so. Tell me a story, or how you feel. I want long sentences with lots of punctuation, more detail. I'm not quitting the short bursts, and you shouldn't either, but wouldn't it be fun to get long-winded once in awhile?

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22 comments:

  1. i'm totally guilty of this. since i started blogging, my grammar and writing skills have gone out the window and you're right - it's a quick post of random thoughts all jumbled.

    but to be honest, i like it. i have to write billion page documents at work so this is a good break for me. there are times i get long winded (like in my comments!) and i write out stories when the desire strikes but let's be honest here - my life isn't as interesting to warrant a long story :(

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  2. I try to do a post a week that is a little more serious, and those tend to be paragraphers just by their nature. Sometimes I don't have anything ready to go, and I always feel guilty that I'm not actually writing those weeks but I'm not one to force something. I'm working on two right now, hopefully I get some time this weekend to finish one!



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  3. I try to mix it up but to be honest sometimes bullet points are easier and well I love them. Haha!

    In all seriousness I feel like bullet points make it easier to read a post sometimes, I too skip posts that are way to long. I can't help it I don't mean to it just happens. :)

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  4. Another one of the many reasons I love you. I've noticed this trend too, and I, even guilty of it but I used to be the queen of the long winded and felt like no one was reading after a while. I like this idea. And also? I love you for reading my novel. You're the best!!!!

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  5. Love this post! Sometimes I feel bad when I write a long post, thinking no one will read it.

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  6. and...i love this.

    I feel like i do this sometimes and I hate it...b/c at the end of the day writing is what i love. I may not be the best, but there is something about telling a story I am passionate about! Thank you for this reminder!

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  7. I think I go back and forth on this myself. And I totally feel ya.

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  8. Love this!! I'm totally guilty of this; sometimes I start a post that's pretty long winded, and then I think "no one is going to want to read all of this," and cut things out, or make it point form. You're totally right though, the people who are actually interested will read it anyway, and it's okay to lose a few reads for the sake of quality writing every once in awhile. Thanks for the inspiration!

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  9. I agree! It's easy to fall into a list making trap. I had to limit my 'lists' posts to Tuesdays and Fridays (and even then, I attempt to stretch it) I try to make the rest of the posts more text heavy. Yeah, it takes longer to read but I like to write!

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  10. I think people get in slumps. And instead of being honest, or just nit posting, the first thought is what can I list? What are my favorite whatevers. AND there's a big line - personally. How much do we post? I know myself, if I have something serious going on, my blog tends to slow down and get quite. Not that I don't have something to say...just deciding if I share it or not. But I am with you. I LOVE stories. Being real. I don't care how long it is. Share it. I most likely need it!

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  11. I think there has to be a good mix of the two. I have unfollowed someone that wrote long drawn out posts everyday, but if I really love a blogger I will read the whole thing.

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  12. this is such a good reminder to stop being in such a rush to get a bit of knowledge. i am guilty of sometimes not reading because it feels too long or skimming and missing content.

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  13. I try to find a good balance between less serious quicker posts, and more serious insights into my world. I hear you on this one, for awhile I was doing too many lists and I realized i didn't want to just be a buzzfeed type blog. Ocassionally (like the rest of this week possibly, lol) but not everyday.

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  14. I found myself falling into this trap. I think it happens when I'm forcing a post. It's nice to read a story sometimes, not just a list. Or, it's nice to read a story without a bunch of pictures. Sometimes the copy is enjoyable like a short book :)

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  15. This post could not of come at a better time. I've been thinking about my New Year's resolutions for the past couple of days and what I want out of my blog this year. I really did think "Maybe I should write shorter posts because that is what the majority of bloggers do." Your comments were refreshing to me and that it's OK that I'm long-winded. It's who I am.

    ...This is not to say that I shouldn't write about my life more. I know I need to start sharing more parts of me. Thanks for the refreshing reminder!

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  16. I definitely try to do a combination of both of these. Sometimes I feel like doing a long-winded post, and other times I do bullet points because I am SUCH a list person in real life.

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  17. This is so interesting that you think this way. I constantly want to write paragraphs and ramble on, but I hold off because I figure...ain't no one got time for that!!
    I am guilty of skimming long posts UNLESS they are my faves. :)

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  18. I am definitely going to be more aware of how i am writing my blog posts now. You make a good point. You can't really get to know people when all that is being posted are bulleted lists!

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  19. I love this post. And I love reading about people - what makes them tick, what they're feeling, how they're handling different situations. It's nice to know that other people like to read that as well.

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  20. I try to be conscious about this and make sure that I don't fall into the trap. I like a good list post just as much as the next person but I never want my blog to resemble a buzzfeed!

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  21. Well put honey, wow. What a perspective to offer. For the record, I read this whole thing. Did you read my blog post from yesterday? I was making fun of this same thing. You hit it head on.

    I do both. I write from my heart and I do the short and sweet ones.

    I feel like most people couldn't care less about the ones I truly write. Oh well.

    Anyways, love this. You are a diamond in the rough. I hope you don't forget that.

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  22. I love this post, and you are so right! If it's a blogger that I find really interesting, then I will read whatever novel they want to put it front of me! Even if it's a fashion blogger (there are a select few that are exquisite writers, and I love them). You are so right that everything online is so rushed these days. The long, heartfelt, and interesting posts are what make bloggers relatable, and we should be writing them more often! Maybe one of these days I'll share more than just "here's what I'm wearing" on my blog...

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