I would love to tell you that I didn't miss it at all, but that would be a lie. I would love to say that I did lots of productive things but unless marathoning Homeland and starting House of Cards season two (OMG that first episode!) count as things worth doing, I really wasn't. But consciously spending time away from screens? That was great.
I admit, I cheated a little. The idea of my bloglovin getting into the triple digits scared me, so I snuck a few posts (less than ten all week) and marked a lot as read every night. I scrolled Instagram one night (I forgot to uninstall it from my iPad) and honestly? I didn't really see anything that made me miss it. I was away, but not completely. I was more like I once was - on the outside of the blog world looking in.
And you know what, blog world? I kind of like it there. I don't remember the day or the post that made me think that posting four to five times a week was just what bloggers do, or when I thought I needed to follow and comment on so many blogs. While I still like the idea that if I read it, I should comment, do I really need to comment when I have nothing to say? I'm kind of thinking not. I want to be involved, but not so involved. I want time to be missed and to miss my favorite bloggers. I have noticed a recurring theme of bloggers taking breaks, getting tired, feeling burnt out. Y'all - we are doing this to ourselves! How silly, right? This is just a hobby meant to be fun and we are starting to dread it. Let's stop the crazy. Now I see why so many bloggers quit.
The commenting to get comments is my biggest issue now. I want to be a good commenter, but not at the expense of living a real life. Of course I like blog comments, but please don't feel like you have to comment all the time. I'm going to work on not feeling that way. There is no rule book that says we are terrible humans if we don't comment on every post, so let's stop acting like there is one. If you have the time and are so inclined, then comment away! But as for me - I am going to try to stop judging the value of my posts based on how many people comment. I would prefer to leave a few meaningful comments a day to bloggers I am building relationships with rather than crappy comments to bloggers who don't know me from the rest of the crowd. "This blog is for you, dummy" - that's what I keep telling myself and maybe what I should change my blog name to. Maybe not, though. I really do like this name.
I can no longer promise that I will respond to every single comment. If someone says "Happy Monday!" or "Pretty" or something... I don't think I'll respond. Kelli gave me great advice once - she said that just because someone likes her blog doesn't mean she has to like theirs, and vice-versa. It is so hard not to feel mean when you don't follow back but fellow bloggers, please understand - I don't have a kid and I don't cook and I am definitely not the pinnacle of health so if any of those are your focus then it isn't you, it's me. Really.
I think I missed twitter most of all, but I am going to attempt to not feel the need to read every single tweet from everyone I follow. Just scrolling back an hour or so is fine. If you are a fan of the Olympics, this was a great time to avoid social media - I really had no idea who won anything the whole time I was "gone." I also had no idea what was going on outside of Houston, so clearly I need to work on how I get my news.
So that's it. I highly recommend getting away from your online world if you feel so inclined. If not, then that's cool, too. My best advice is do what works for you and don't feel like you have to do what everyone else calls the norm. I've always taken pride in doing my own thing, anyway.
I made Valentine cards for my coworkers with some extra time I had from not blogging! | Andrew was eating a clementine when I picked him up from work one day so I took a slice and a selfie, naturally | This awesome mural is one of my favorite things in downtown Houston, and it's also on the block with my favorite bars.