Monday, April 14, 2014

so tired, so full

We've been waiting for "one day" for awhile now. One day when we have friends, when we can invite people over, when we will make dinner for them and serve drinks, have a use for the servingware and salad tongs that have been taking up space in the kitchen for no real reason for far too long. One day.

Well, Saturday was finally one day. As simple as it seems, and it should be, there was finally a day where the stars aligned and I had friends, opportunity, and a home in which to host a seemingly simple barbecue for relatively newfound friends and their significant others. We talked and laughed, ate and ate some more, and got to know one another better. Seeing how your friends and their mates fit together in a perfect compliment, and how they were all as they have been described came as no surprise but was a treat nonetheless.

These friends didn't see the chipped paint or the bare flower beds that I wished I could change with the wave of a wand in the hours leading up to their arrival. They were gracious guests full of kind words about our food, our home, and our invitation to spend time together. The wives even chased their husbands with coasters and explanations about new furniture and being careful when eating near the couch. It didn't matter that we brought lawn chairs inside and plates were eaten resting on laps; it was a house full, and having more bodies than actual dining chairs didn't seem to bother anyone. 

It's so ridiculous and I've said it so many times, but I am so grateful for these friendships and these people who are a part of my life. Who I can have standing text dates with, last-minute lunches and girls' nights, plan weekends away with, and email with links to things I want to buy but need another opinion on. I have an amazing friend and partner in my husband, sure, but I need girlfriends, and we need couple friends, to make life feel more complete. To share the mundane and the fun with, to pass along leftover barbecue to, and to lean on for support for an unknown "one day," when we will surely need it. To believe that on days or weeks or time beyond when I choose to stop making my presence here a regular occurrence, that they will still be there to live life with.

A friend and I recently joked that if something wasn't on Instagram, then it didn't happen, or else it wasn't any fun. Well, there was zero documentation of this small gathering; purses were left on a bench by the door and phones barely checked all night. No hashtags or check-ins or filters needed - instead there was eye contact and stories not suitable for social media and hopefully memories made. I looked around the room at one point to see some of my favorites all together and I just felt full - beyond the brisket Andrew started cooking in the middle of the night - just happy about the fact that these people were in my life. I wish I could have invited everyone, near and far, who has become a friend in the past year, but there isn't enough room in my house (or on Andrew's smoker) to host a barbecue to celebrate all of the relationships I've been lucky enough to form.

So thanks, internet, for existing so that I could make the real life connections I so desperately needed. Thanks, friends, for being willing to go beyond the pixels and type into real life friendship. I'm grateful that one day arrived and look forward to many more memory-filled days to come.


24 comments:

  1. :) I'm so thrilled to hear that it went well and you feel whole & fulfilled after this weekend. Internet friends are awesome but real friends warming up your home is even better!

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  2. I am so glad you had a great time. Having great friends is such a blessing and I am glad you got to have them over!

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  3. i love gatherings with close friends where all you do is laugh, talk and enjoy each other's company!! even better that nothing was documented because that just means that everyone was *present*.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  4. Visiting from the linkup -- thanks so much for sharing this. We're definitely still starting out on buying furniture, painting, swapping out pink carpet, et cetera. This definitely resonates with me :)

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  5. Sounds like a great weekend!!! Having friends to be able to invite over to your home and just hang out with and enjoy food is the best thing ever!!! We had people over for dinner for the first time at our house this weekend too! Although it was my sister and her husband and two boys....it was still a first and so much fun! We didn't take a single picture either! You know you had a good time if no pictures were taken!

    Enjoy your week!

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  6. I'm glad you were finally able to have your "one day" & that everyone had such a good time that hashtags & check-ins weren't needed.

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  7. I love this Lauren! So glad you had such a wonderful night.

    True homes are lived in, comfortable, not perfect...filled with laughs and some paint chips too.

    I've long been the person who insists on just one photo no matter what - I was doing that before the Internet was even a thing, back in the 80s and 90s. I am the keeper of the friend memories so I'm always shoving a camera in your face. haha

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  8. I love this!

    So glad and jealous you've made local friends via your blog.

    I'm still waiting on my "one day", when it comes I hope it's as awesome as your sounds.

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  9. You know its a good night when you don't once reach for a phone to document it!

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  10. What a great post! It is always exhausting getting it all ready but so worth it. I love get togethers like this! Sounds like a great evening!

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  11. Visiting from the linkup- so cool that you've made local friends through your blog!

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  12. this makes my heart happy for you :) and i am glad that you were so content you didn't feel the need to prove how good your life is to others!

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  13. This sounds really nice! I'm glad you had such a nice visit with friends over the weekend--and that you to share your new living room!!! As much as I love social media and pictures--the best visits are the ones where the phones stay tucked away!

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  14. I'll save how bad I love Andrew for a separat email lol.
    I'm so glad we came and I seriously can't believe a group of bloggers met up and took absolutely no pictures. Not even of the food!!! It was fantastic. Thanks again for having us :)))))))

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  15. Sounds like a perfect night to me! I try and document everything, and the nights I forget to, are the ones I enjoy most.

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  16. Yeah, there was no noticing anything but the great food, great people and friendly environment! Don't even stress about the imperfections (that exist only in your head!) It was a great Saturday night! I just wish I would have taken home a doggie bag with leftovers :)

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  17. This sounds amazing! I'm so glad you could have a night full of friends, food, and no phones. We all need those nights every now and then. :)

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  18. It was a really great night! I am grateful for you as a friend and for you guys' effort to get us all together! I am looking forward to the next gathering as well. :)

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  19. Hanging out with friends is so much fun!! Glad you finally had your day to host. I find that I do not look forward to the work of hosting but once everyone is there in my home enjoying themselves it feels really, really good.

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  20. There's nothing better than quality time with good friends. As I hung out with mine this weekend I looked around the table at their faces and thought to myself how lucky I was. I know that sounds cheesy but it just was an amazing feeling! :)

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  21. Aw so sweet. It is definitely difficult to get your friends together all on one day especially as you go through different life changes (i.e. move, get married, have kids). Glad you were finally able to get together.

    Lol I always feel like a bad blogger not documenting my social gatherings but you know you're having a good time when you haven't taken any pics.

    Thanks for linking up :)

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  22. YES, yes YES. My favorite part of my 25th birthday was that the only picture I have of it was in a mirror for a friend of my sparkling peplum. Did I imagine that it would be it? No, but it makes me remember the night so vividly.

    And is there something so amazing about looking around and realizing you are at the "one day" point finally! :) So, so happy for you dear!

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  23. Aww this was such a sweet post! You and Andrew were perfect hosts. I hope this is the start of many more hangouts with us and our mates because everyone got along so well! I had a blast and my only complaint was that I had to leave early (did I miss anything?!).

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  24. It all sounds absolutely lovely! It makes my heart so happy to know that you had such a fulfilling and content evening with good friends! I wish you and Andrew many more in the future!

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