GUYS. Blogging is a huge timesuck and as much as I like it, I want to do it as efficiently as possible. And since this is one of those weird things that I don't think any two people do in the same way, I thought I would share my way just because it seems really different and maybe I want to know that I'm not the only heartless jerk out there.
When I fall in love with a blog, sometimes I play it shy by just following via blogger, but these days, I cut right to the chase and follow on Bloglovin. That's a big commitment because I know the blogger will get an email alerting them and everything. But when you know, you just know, right? If I'm on the fence but want to remember them, I just follow via twitter. And I leave a comment of course, because duh.
But just like all the boys you dated back in high school, sometimes the luster wears off. The blogger isn't your thing for some reason, and that's okay. She probably has twenty million other followers and since you don't like make-up reviews or kid posts or recipes (or she posts something horribly insensitive, but that's only happened once) she just isn't for you. No big deal. So, what do you do?
a) Mark as read every day. You FOLLOWED her, and that means something. You're a woman of your word and once you commit, you don't go back.
b) Put her blog in a folder with others you read with a lesser degree of frequency because you never know if she'll grab you again. Hurting feelings and making someone lose a follower is no fun, anyway.
c) Find her blog in Bloglovin, select "unfollow," and don't really think about it again.
If you selected c, then congratulations, you might be a heartless jerk just like me (said in good fun - I'm not actually a heartless jerk. And neither are you). I understand the rationale between the first two choices, but of course I have something to say about them.
With choices a and b, I get it. We all like followers, of course, but don't we preach that we all want readers? We want commenters and a community and if I mark your blog as read every few days, then I'm neither. And it creates an extra step for me, and if you've been here for any length of time, then you should know one of my personal mantras by now - lazy always wins. And yes, I will be the first to admit that as much as I want to say and believe that numbers don't matter, I know they can affect you. I know when I see that little graph in bloglovin dip down, I get a little bummed out. I want to find out who it is and see if I did something wrong. Don't you wish that was an option? I would love to get anonymous feedback from people who stop following me, but I digress... All of this to say that if I stop loving a blog, I unfollow it. I might still follow on twitter and I probably still follow on Instagram, but my bloglovin list is precious real estate and I must get that count down to zero as soon as possible. And sometimes that means unfollowing a blogger that I used to love.
So today, I confess: I'm an unfollower. If I follow then I read and probably comment and I think that's what so many of you want anyway, right? How do you "break up" with a blog?
Linking up with Kathy