Tuesday, June 3, 2014

if we had a lady date...

I've seen a bunch of those "If we met for coffee" posts floating around and I like them. And if you know me, then you know I like to give things my own spin. You and I, we would go on a lady date. Simple coffee or even a glass of wine wouldn't suffice. We would need an entire evening for me to talk your ear off.



If we went on a lady date, let's be honest, I would probably want to pick the place. I have serious trust issues letting people pick restaurants for me until I know their tastes better.

I run on two speeds - weirdly early or a tiny bit late. This is important for you to know on our lady date. I would blame traffic either way - it was weirdly light or SO INSANE I'M SO SORRY.

If we met in person, you would see that I wear my heart on my sleeve and you can usually know what I'm thinking just by looking at me. I don't have a poker face to speak of. I hope I don't accidentally offend you or stick my foot in my mouth, but I probably will. It just happens sometimes.

We would talk about blogging at first, sure. That's always the safest place to start, and then we would get more personal, with the things that aren't safe for the internet. That would mark the beginning of friendship: the sharing of secrets now that we're face to face.

I would ask you if we liked what you ordered and what you would order the next time. I'd offer you some of what I had and probably hope for some of yours, too. We would talk TV and I would be determined to find something we both felt the same way about.

I'd think to something I knew about you - probably something that drew me to you and your blog in the first place. And I would bring it up, but probably as subtly as possible. I wouldn't want you to think I was a crazy stalker and wouldn't want to get into my weirdly selective memory with you.

We would talk about jobs and babies - these two subjects seem to come up with nearly everyone lately. I would talk about my job and listen to you talk about yours and try to really understand how you spend forty hours a week. And probably, if you don't already have a child, we would laugh about how they are so much work and how we aren't ready yet, if ever, and something to be more seriously discussed later, when we're older.

If we had a lady date, I would force myself to keep my phone in my bag and you would earn extra points for doing the same. I would enjoy having this time with no interruptions as actual face time is so hard to come by these days. Of course, I wouldn't tell you that or impose any rules - but if you just knew, then there would surely be more lady dates in the future.

I would ramble on for as long as you'd let me. I always find that leaving is the hardest part of a night like this. I would wonder if your significant other missed you or if there was something else you would rather be doing. I never want to impose, but I would want you to know how much I appreciate our time together. We would walk to our cars with promises to do it again and perhaps a blurry selfie in the dark. And probably a hug. I'm not the biggest hugger out there, but for you, my lady date, I would surely make an exception. And driving home I would be so full and so happy from our simple talk with no distractions, no husbands, and no judgements. And for the millionth time, I would be so grateful for all the friends I've made from this silly little hobby that I can't imagine being without.

24 comments:

  1. I could definitely spend HOURS talking about TV! hahaha

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  2. I'm always weirdly early. I would love a lady date with you!

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  3. when the wine comes out, the initial awkwardness goes away and that's when the real party begins :) it would be fun to get to know the person behind the blog and talk about everything!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  4. I would totally go on a lady date with you, but since I enjoyed it so much I'd insist that we take a photo inside in the light. I'm a picture person and always have been, before the internet or digital photos even existed. And I'd want to use my real camera because the reverse iPhone photos suck at night.

    I would definitely let you pick the place AND taste my food. I hate picking restaurants. I like when people give me a choice of three places, then I can choose. hahaha

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  5. Let's go on a lady date! I would let you pick the place because while I too have trust issues on such things, I know you are a foodie like me ;) I have met a ton of bloggy friends in Tampa, and now some of them are my fave people. Great post!

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  6. Haha I'm always weirdly early too. Except lately I've been running late just because I'm always the one that is awkwardly early & I'm just trying to arrive when everyone else does. You sound like an awesome lady date!

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  7. I'd go on a lady date with you and I'd be glad you would do a lot of talking because I'm not much of a talker at first.

    I'm always early because as a child my mom made me late for everything and it was embarrassing. So I'd probably be there waiting when you arrived.

    I'd keep my phone mostly put away but I'd want to IG a picture of our lady date so everyone would know I was hanging out with one of my favorite blog friends!

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  8. Lauren, this sounds like a great lady date! I always hate picking the restaurant but have a fear of letting others pick. I like to send choices, that way I have influence but you don't end up with food you don't like :) I'm much less of a picky eater than some people so I always worry about it. OMG, the comment about having a selective memory is SO me. I remember really random things I've read or have been told, and people will say WOW I can't believe you remembered that (and then I feel creepy) :)

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  9. We would have the best lady date ever!! We would talk for hours and you can choose the restaurant. I am always early it is a curse. We would have to take a picture of our food because duh, then we can put our phones away until the end when we get a pic together to document the happy! :)

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  10. Wow, I love the idea of this post. It's made me think about what I'd be like in this situation. I think maybe similar to you, although whenever I mentally plan something, it never really works out that way.

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  11. Lady dates are the best because they usually involve copious amounts of wine ;-)

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  12. this is a lady date i would totally love to go on. especially for your taste in food...because we all know it's not for your personality ;)

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  13. A lady date with you sounds awesome!

    I hate picking the restaurant. I am super quiet when I first meet someone ... I need someone to prime me with questions to get me started. I would definitely be happy to share my food!

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  14. Yes!! I want a lady date with you! We can both either be oddly early or a little late together! (That always seems to happen to me too haha). You'd get a kick out of my secrets that I can't divulge on my blog haha. Book material, I tell you!

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  15. Im always early too, and I hate picking out a restaurant so I think you and I would get along just fine LOL

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  16. I always love posts like this! I am terrible at saying goodbyes, especially if it was a great evening. I would linger a long time, possibly even give two hugs and sometimes I say, "OK, I'm really going to go now." Oh and I'm glad you'd pick the restaurant -- I'm terrible at those things and I'd worry you wouldn't like my choice.

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  17. The whole meeting someone you know online offline thing felt SO WEIRD to me at first... But the few times that I've done it I've loved EVERY second and actually been sad when our time comes to an end, so, yes we'd have the best lady date EVER.

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  18. I love this and love the concept of this post! There are so many ladies I've let through this blogging thing that I would love to have this kind of effortless lady date with! You sound like one of them!

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  19. Can we please go on a lady date? My husband and my friends are always all "where do YOU want to eat?". Sometimes that's nice, but other times I don't want to have to make that choice.

    -Jackie
    http://ournashvillelife.com

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  20. Lauren, you are my lady date soul mate! This sounds like the perfect lady date and it makes me angry that you live so far away!!! I would totally let you pick the restaurant because we all know how indecisive I am. I would be curious as to what drew you to my blog and kept you coming back. Olivia is a new thing...so it couldn't be that :P

    I can't promise that I wouldn't keep babbling at the end of our night either, because I do hate ending a perfect lady date.

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  21. I always ask if the person would eat there again and if they would order the same thing! I think we'd have a great date :)

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  22. We would do the hug/selfie at the start and then toss the phones in the bags for the rest of the night!!!

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  23. OMG this is EXACTLY TRUE! You nailed it. And now I am thinking we should plan another lady date asap!

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