Wednesday, June 11, 2014

marriage confessions

Today Andrew and I celebrate four years of being married! I have already written plenty about him and our marriage and I would hate to miss out on linking up with Kathy for confessions so to commemorate this day, I give you: Marriage Confessions.

1) Our wedding night was one of the least romantic nights, ever. We arrived at our hotel and sat at the window seat rehashing the night for at least an hour and it was perfect. We looked out the window over the city and swore that the day didn't pass in the blink of an eye and we would always remember every detail. When I finally convinced myself to take off my wedding dress, I went into the bathroom, changed, and began the process of removing the 100 bobby pins that had held my hair all day, which took at least twenty minutes... and my groom proceeded to fall asleep fully clothed with one shoe still on, taking up more than half the bed. Never one to turn down a good night's rest, I quickly joined him. Hey, we had the rest of our lives for (ahem) other stuff, right?

2) I insist on keeping the shirts we were wearing when we first met even though mine doesn't fit and his was purchased by his ex girlfriend.

I was not wearing my Smoky the Bear shirt and no make-up, but he was wearing his Jason Mraz shirt from the Waiting for my Rocket to Come tour. We were babies here!

3) We don't subscribe to the "Never go to bed angry" advice. We've gone to bed angry more than once. It happens. Sometimes a new day gives you better perspective, or at the very least, you're well-rested to keep the argument going.

4) I feel judged as a wife by people who aren't my husband. Yes, he cooks. His female coworkers were shocked to learn he does his own laundry (I do mine, he does his, we share the sheets and towels about 70 - 30 with me doing them most often). My lack of domesticity isn't your business so stay out of it!

5) I confess that our biggest debate right now is where to have our anniversary dinner. We decided on a place, but now that my father-in-law has gifted us with a meal at the restaurant of our choosing, Andrew wants to upgrade our dinner plans and go to brunch the next day. It isn't the worst problem to have but I'm trying to eat like a normal human and not like a ravenous wildebeest.

I wanted a selfie at the DMB concert a few weeks ago and he refused so I told him whatever I ended up with would be on the blog. I confess that he isn't always super accommodating to my blog picture needs.

6) I like to joke about his love of football and smoked meat, but I really am the luckiest. He really does take care of me and he does a great job of just doing life with me. I confess that I can't imagine finding my match in anyone else and without him, I wouldn't understand football and would still be eating at chain restaurants regularly. It's safe to say that so far, marriage agrees with me. Here's looking forward to many more!

I'm also linking up with Emily since I'm wishing for many more happy years of marriage... it counts, right?

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On a completely unrelated, hey-look-at-me note, did you check out my new and improved sidebar? I kept wanting to add bloggers and it kept looking messy, so I made a visual blogroll if you will. I like to see people's buttons. Check out my sidebar and click the pretty pic with sixteen of my favorites to go to a page where you can see all of their buttons bigger and click on their buttons to visit their blog. It's one of those weird things that has made me happy to look at since I made it. It's pretty self-explanatory but would any Blogger users be interested in a tutorial? You know I love a post I can write ahead of time...

37 comments:

  1. Love this though! Your marriage sound realistic none of that fake crap. My dad cooks a LOT and he may have cooked more than my mum growing up ... so what is what I have to say to that! Also your wedding night sounds like a blast and I aint even being sarcastic. lol

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  2. Hey Lauren!! I agree, going to bed angry happens!! Its just more realistic that way!! All so true!!

    Lisa,xo
    www.chiclittlethrills.blogspot.com

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  3. Happy Anniversary :) Great marraige confessions!

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  4. Happy 4 years!! I swear, I read so many blogger who got married in 2010 (and so did I)...we must somehow find each other. :P I'm pretty domestic but Angel does his part--he cleans the bathrooms and vaccums more than I do--he cooks a few things but I like my own cooking better. haha!

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  5. People give me side eye because Tyson is the cook, I'm sure they're just jealous I'm not in the kitchen slaving over dinner every night.

    I love that you keep the shirts, I keep a box of "stuff" like a book of matches from the restaurant where we met and little notes he's left me over the years.

    I want to see your tutorial, I love the square of buttons! I might do that instead of sidebar swaps if you show me how. :)

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  6. I've already told my BF that he might has well accept his role as the cook in our relationship. I can cook, but I don't enjoy it in the same way he does. I'll be happy to buy all the kitchen toys he wants as long as I don't HAVE to use them unless I want to.

    I told him that I'd be willing to do ALL the laundry, almost all the time and maybe clean the bathrooms at least once a month. I'm all about bartering for domestic duty.

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  7. Happy 4th Anniversary!!! I am terrible on the domestic wife duties too! F those women, they are just jealous (it is true). P does most of the daily cooking, I do laundry but I cannot/will not iron, he does most cleaning(mainly because it takes me longer to get ready and he just does it while I shower on Saturday). He makes me lemon water for when I wake up, makes me tea for work, and most mornings packs my lunch too. I feel guilty about it sometimes, but it works for us. I'm very lucky. I love the new blogger roll and even though I don't use Blogger I think you should do the tutorial! And thanks so much for including me...you are the best!

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  8. Happy anniversary! I love that you insist on keeping the shirts. I'm sentimental like that too.

    MFD does his own wash. The running of a household is so hard to get down well. Each couple has to do what works best for them! We all have our strong points and those often become our duties. If cooking isn't one of yours, then you shouldn't cook! Everyone can mind their own beeswax.

    Your sidebar looks pretty fly.

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  9. Cute idea with the blog button page! This was a great idea for confessions :) my husband isn't very accommodating for blog pics either and if have to say our wedding night was very similar to yours!

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  10. Drake likes to clean way more than I do and I am totally okay with that! We both like to cook and often cook together which is fun.

    I have been told a few times by older couples that the whole "don't go to bed angry" thing is bad advice anyway. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just go to bed, get some rest, and revisit the situation the next day. Sounds like pretty sound advice to me!

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  11. I see absolutely nothing wrong with him cooking. Most of the best chefs are men! And seriously, soooo many bobby pins in wedding hair!!

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  12. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Love your wedding night, haha sexy to the max!

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  13. Happy Anniversary! Great post about marriage, and tying it in with confessions. I love how this posts makes marriage seem real - not some fairy tale, but a true you and me relationship. Gives us un-married folk a better perspective!

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  14. My husband does ALL the laundry, 'cause I am the worst at it. I always forget it and leave it in the washing machine. I believe in sharing duties haha. Happy anniversary!

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  15. This post is honest and refreshing! I love it! And btw, your husband's co-workers are JEALOUS! My husband does all of our cooking and a majority of our grocery shopping. He's amazing. He enjoys cooking; who am I to deprive him of that joy?!! Thanks for linking up with Emily and I!

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  16. ok the people that judge you for how you split up chores are dumb and sexist frankly if we really want to get down to it!!! i say this because brad does most of our laundry and it makes me the happiest.

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  17. Too funny! My husband is what led to me totally kicking the chain restaurant habit too. My husband is also the cook but we share laundry. I know of a few other couples that do separate laundry but I don't get it. I'm too concerned about wasting water. I'd rather just lump it together 'cause my loads would be too small. But hey-whatever works!!!

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  18. Happy Anniversary!! Love your confessions. I imagine most newleyweds being too tired after a long wedding to do the deed so to speak. Haha! The sidebar is pretty sweet especially since I'm on it! ;) This did have me laughing after our text convo.

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  19. I love that you two have a REAL relationship. I honestly believe that people that say they have these oh so perfect, stepford wives, like relationships are full of bullshit. Also, you SHOULDN'T do his laundry or cook all the time. What is it fucking 1940? My parents both do laundry & cook...and once my brother & I were old enough to do it we also helped.

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  20. Aww I made the "list", thanks for making me a button ;)

    Happy Anniversary! I love your confessions. Also, Jason and I do our own laundry. We both did our own from an early age, and I love him, but I am not washing his underwear, like ever if I can help it. He does put my laundry away sometimes b/c I am so lazy and leave it in the dryer for days. Hope you enjoy dinner, wherever it is!

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  21. happy anniversary me and my guy go to bed mad all the time LOL but the next day its over and done with.

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  22. My husband does the cooking cleaning and laundry!! What's the big deal?? We should be friends

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  23. whoever said their wedding night was filled with romance and amazing sex is LYING. ain't no way you even have the energy to take your clothes off after being up at 5am, sitting in your garb for hours on end, being the most gracious hostess to those who are witnessing your wedding, doing all that dancing and then try and muster up the energy to bump uglies? nope, not this couple. on our wedding night after i finally managed to get the last guest to leave, i lay down in my dress, hair still done and said: don't touch me. i'm too tired to do anything. i looked over and he was already asleep. LOL

    thanks for linking up!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  24. Scott cooks about 90% of the time. We share laundry and other cleaning duties, but I admit he is more diligent about it than I am. He is also the only one who ever irons. Because his shirts often require ironing and I make it a rule to not own anything that won't de-wrinkle in the dryer.

    One time I made a comment to an older coworker about how we often have random guitar picks in our washing machine b/c Scott keep them in his pants pockets. She said, "Sounds like someone isn't very good at emptying the pockets when doing laundry." I said, "Yeah, I guess he just forgets sometimes." And she laughed and said, "In my day it was always the wife's job to do the laundry. And emptying pockets is part of the job. Why, if I didn't empty pockets in my house, Lord knows what would have ended up in the wash!" Umm...he is a grown man! He can surely empty his own darn pockets! Sheesh!

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  25. Happy Anniversary!!!

    Chris and I go to bed angry sometimes. I hate it, and I used to be one of those people who had to talk an issue to death until it was resolved...but sometimes I am just too tired and have to end it and pick back up with a fresh set of eyes.

    You two are adorable, and I love reading about all your fun Houston escapades!

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  26. Stopping by from the Wednesday Wishes link up. Glad I did - your marriage sounds a lot like mine! We do our own laundry, sometimes go to bed angry and he does the cooking most of the time. Glad to have found you!

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  27. Stopping by from the Wed Wishes link up - happy anniversary!! I remember taking about 100 bobby pins out of my hair too. It took FOREVER - especially since the stylist had sprayed an entire bottle of hair spray over my updo, pretty much gluing the pins in!

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  28. I am so not domestic. My hubby, cooks, cleans, does laundry, etc. I am the the anti Martha Stewart!! And our wedding night was "uneventful" too. We were so exhausted and just passed out.

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  29. Happy Anniversary!!! And OMG isn't it crazy how many bobby pins can be on your head? I remember taking them out after high school dances and counting them in shock!

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  30. Happy anniversary! :D
    I totally wear one of Pete's old hoodies that he got from an ex... it's actually my favorite one to wear! haha

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  31. Happy anniversary love birds!!! Marriage is amazing and I can easily confess right along with you to ALL of the above. Love, love, love your sidebar. Definitely do a tutorial.

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  32. Whatever works for y'all is totally fine girl. It's your marriage not all those negative nancy's out there. Plus I do like the new sidebar image, I always feel super proud and gloaty when I do a small improvement to my blog all by myself too :)

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  33. I see myself in your sidebar! Very cool ;) Thanks girl.
    Ugh the domesticity thing. It's 2014. (a) He's an adult, he can cook and clean like a normal person. (b) who the heck cares if he can/can't? Not everyone needs to be in the exact same situation.

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  34. Love this! I really agree that you can sometimes go to bed angry. It's better than saying something out of anger that you don't really mean!

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  36. Happy anniversary!!! Sorry I'm so late to tell you that! As a soon to be married person, I loved reading this post! It's always nice to hear about marriage from a fresh and normal perspective :)

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  37. Happy belated anniversary! I hope whatever you decided to do for dinner went well! (I bet I'll see how it went as I catch up on your posts.) :) David and I didn't *do* anything on our wedding night either. People look at me crazy when I tell them that. But really, sleep after the craziness of that day was what we both needed and wanted. I hate the "don't go to bed angry" advice. It really is best to have a fresh perspective in the morning. I get cranky when I'm tired, so that would only add fuel to the fire...

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