Thursday, December 18, 2014

what are you doing in 2015?

I recently had lunch with some friends. Friends made through blogging, but who are more than blog friends and aren't in the same "blog group" as me. They blog for different audiences and reasons. So we were chatting about what was new and I told them I had been largely offline lately and felt okay about that. One friend emphatically told me that I burned myself out, and the other echoed her claim.

And they weren't wrong.

I'm not sure when 4-5 posts per week, responding to every comment, and commenting everywhere became the norm, but somewhere it did. I tried my best to keep up with bloggers who made that look easy. Quantity was king and I wanted a piece of that too. "Only" getting x number of comments was seen as an opinion about my abilities as a writer and stagnant numbers of followers plagued me. I mean, that's dramatic, but it kind of did!

So, as you know, if you know me from other bloggers you read, I kind of... stopped. Or tapered off. Yes, we moved, and things have changed, but I didn't want to come here anymore. I liked not having a pile of comments to respond to or posts I felt guilty for skipping. And others are in the same boat, it seems. Many bloggers I considered to be in my group have scaled back, or quit all together. And I can't blame them. I think we did this to ourselves!

For me, the battle between wanting to write versus not wasting anyone's time with what I shared was huge. Do you, living in a different time zone, care what I ate for dinner on Saturday? Let's be honest and say you probably don't. So I started getting into the "why bother?" of it all and didn't want to write at all.

But I missed it. I miss sharing and interacting. I don't make the time to write, read, and respond like I used to. Maybe one day I will again. But that isn't me right now. I want to focus in 2015 on life and documenting the things worth remembering, whether it gets posted to the internet or not. I want to write for me, whether I think you'll like it. I want to read blogs that I love and not follow anyone because I have to! I want to mostly forget picmonkey exists and just have my crappy phone pics be enough (because seriously? Editing photos takes for-ev-er). I truly want this to be where I document my life and what's in my head, and for that to be enough. So that's my goal in 2015. What are you working on?

10 comments:

  1. The person who decides what is enough is you. Choose wisely! That's what I like about having my own blog - everything is my call. I hate doing things because I feel like I have to. That makes me petulant and bitter.

    I only use PicMonkey for collages and text...I have zero time to edit photos. I usually end up editing them so they look worse than they did when I took them.

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  2. Blogger burnout is a real thing that's for sure. I've been at this for five years now and it's had it's highs and lows but the reason I keep coming back is because I love to write. It's so hard to tune out all of that other BS but I'm getting better and better about it and I HAVE to or else I would surely quit. Blog on your own terms without regard to numbers and it will be whatever it is!!

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  3. I have noticed a lot of people burning out, scaling back or quitting completely. I understand it. I am so behind on my blog reading right now that I will probably mark all as read and pretend like it never happened. There are some days that posts just dont happen. But it's my blog and I do what I want! I say you should do the same :)

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  4. Of course you do what you want :) I'm trying to step up my whole blogging game this next year...I want to do better and be more organized. I know some many of my "regular" bloggers are going away :( It makes me sad. I hope you don't go 100% away but totally agree it should not stress you out! I have been bad about keeping up with my reading/commenting, some days it is just hard.

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  5. I've also definitely have been in a funk about blogging (for quite a long time too) but have been thinking about getting back into it in 2015. It's kinda sad some of the blogs I read have slowed down but life gets super busy. I totally get it! I've also noticed some of the blog I read only do sponsored posts now which annoys me sometimes because I feel like I'm reading an add most of the time. The blogging world is changing and I'm not sure I like it!

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  6. I think we have to cut ourselves some slack. We need to post when and whatever we want to post. Not everyone is going to like everything we post but it's not about that, I think finding your purpose and really figuring out what you want to write is the best thing.

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  7. I completely agree! I've also noticed that a lot of bloggers have either cut back or completely stopped. I've been participating in a year in review where I've also been looking back at my posts over the year. I definitely got away from why I originally started this blog, which was, like you said, to document my life. So that's what I'm aiming for in 2015. Less "just because I feel the need to have a post" & less "I need to do all of these link ups to get comments/readers" & more documentation of my actual life & events. If you aren't back before Christmas I hope you have a great holiday!

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  8. I agree... we do it to ourselves. And I also agree that a lot of people have been scaling back lately! It's a LOT of work. And it shouldn't be.

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  9. Totally understandable! Butttt come visit my blog or email me so we can stay friends, darn it!!

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  10. While I was gone I missed blogging, but as you can see, I also didn't rush to come back. It's funny, I had a lot of similar thoughts to what you expressed above. Cut out so many rules and start writing for me and not worry if I'll offend someone or if it's light-hearted enough. So when I came back that's what I decided, it's my blog and I'm going to blog about topics that interest me.

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I like comments and read them all but I'm not great about responding to them, so please don't be offended. I would much rather visit your blog instead!