Monday, July 27, 2015

house rules

This post was inspired by the lovely Shannon, whose 21 Days of Gratitude have been a pleasure to read. She wrote about the way things are in her house, which led me to think about our own "house rules."

In my house, we take turns picking records. He picks lots of Springsteen and I pick Michael Jackson for the dance party that I know will follow (I know MJ was terrible later in life but there isn't much that tops "Gotta Be Startin' Something"). There are also records that we have vetoed if the other is home. I refuse to listen to Inside Llewyn Davis and even though he bought me Taylor Swift's 1989 for Christmas, I can't listen to it when he's home.

In our house, whoever cooks does not clean. I only cook two dishes - enchiladas and lasagna - so therefore, I clean often.

We don't allow phones at dinner! I'm working hard to enforce this one for both of us.

We trade favors. I got you some ice cream earlier, so will you get me a glass of water now?

I feed the cat, and he feeds the dog.

We try to eat at home Sunday - Thursday, and Friday and Saturday we go out. Sundays are grocery shopping days and we only buy what we think we'll need for the week. Our pantry is mostly empty!

There are movies we watch at least a few minutes of every time they're on: Shawshank Redemption, Goodfellas, Wedding Crashers, 40 Year Old Virgin, and Anchorman all come to mind.

He told me early on that he doesn't clean bathrooms and so far, I haven't really forced him to try.

All of our money goes into one big pot and everything is truly "ours." He pays the bills; I'm bad with math and due dates and though I rarely acknowledge it, I so appreciate it.

We're brand loyal to toilet paper and paper towels (Charmin and Bounty, respectively).

We ALWAYS watch the Dateline episodes narrated by Keith Morrison.

A bad day is made better by a trip for a treat - preferably frozen custard or Bahama Buck's.

The one who drives gets to pick the music. I hate driving; I rarely pick the music.

We check in with each other about making plans, but we don't ask permission when the other doesn't have to tag along.

We usually go to bed at the same time (but I stay up and read for about an hour). On weekends, he wakes up first and knows not to wake me up without coffee or the promise of breakfast in the very near future.

Since we both blog, we both proofread each other's posts.

Most things are given nicknames ending with an "ee" sound - Bauey, Dunky, Honey, and so on. I have to stop myself from using ridiculous terms we use in our house in real life.

In our house, we talk about our days. The big and the mundane. We know each other's coworkers by name through stories, even if we've never seen their faces. We text throughout the day, but never call. We play devil's advocate when we can and best, supportive friend when needed. We're on the same team.

I'm sure there are many, many more, but they feel so natural to me that it's hard to think of them now. What are some of your house rules?


  1. I really love this post! It's funny, I've never really thought about our house rules but you're so right, we all have them :)

  2. I love this, I wish we had more rules but we really don't have them in our house.

    Although not a rule when we go some place together I drive ALWAYS, I'm the driver and he's the rider. It's been that way for 15 years! Maybe it's an unwritten rule!

  3. Aw such a cute post! I'd have to think of what ours are.
    I LOLed at the toilet paper because seriously - Charmin. I can't with anything else, no matter the price. Charmin or bust.

  4. Such a fun idea for a post!!! Chris and I have the same eating out and grocery shopping schedule as you guys. Except we decided to stay in this Saturday so I had to go to the store so we had stuff to eat! I love your no phone rule at dinner and I think we need to have that in our house too. Except if we need to snap a picture of the food before we eat :)

  5. Such a cute posts. I never think of these things but I know every house operates differently. I am totally brand loyal when it comes to toilet paper, Charmin Ultra soft. I will always watch Wedding Crashers if it comes on.

  6. Lauren, this is perfection! So fun to read about your house. I am definitely going to do another installment when my challenge is over. Thanks so much for the shout out. Xo

  7. I have similar house rules to you! Whoever does the cooking gets the night off from washing up and I am usually the one cleaning as I rarely cook. Another rule is Sundays include a traditional roast and we then head out for some kind of dessert.

  8. This is such a cute post! It's always fun getting to know the little parts of peoples' daily lives. You guys sound like you have a perfect partnership and really balance each other out. We have a lot of the same house rules but a lot of our roles are reversed haha!

  9. We trade favors too! Just tonight I said "I put your dish away earlier so can you hand me the remote?" Too funny! We are brand loyal to toilet paper and paper towels too, but we are die hard Scott and Bounty people!

  10. We are Scott and Bounty people.

    I always think I've done a post like this but then I can never find it when I look for it. I like to know how other people operate.

  11. These are so great! You have an awesome partnership. We have the no phones at dinner rule too. I feel like I have to start it now before my kids get phones and they rule our lives.

  12. Amen to the 'no phones at dinner'. When I went to Italy (the first time) with my friend and her daughter, it was such a culture shock to eat meals with them and they immediately pull out their devices. It was super annoying since I am used to looking at people and holding conversations during meals. The most I use my phone is when the food is served, I admit I'll snap a photo or two, then into the purse it goes.

  13. Love it!! I'm going to have to work on a post like this :) though we don't have a whole lot of routine. I think mine would read P runs the whole house and takes care of me :) We are Charmin peeps, though I just caved and got Costco brand the last we will see. I love how you have the give and take going on.

  14. I love the idea of not having phones at dinner - go to any restaurant and see how many people are using their phones at the table.
    I do most of the cooking (but I love it), the grocery-shopping, cleaning, and laundry...but I strangely like handling those things myself. He works between 55 and 75 hours per week and his job is unpredictable. I think it is fair.


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