Thursday, November 17, 2016

thursday things

So many things in my head, so little time to write them out coherently.

- I'm in a book slump. I think the vacation/election/daylight savings triple whammy have just made it hard for me to get lost in a good story. I haven't read or listened to a book since mid-October. I have Commonwealth checked out from the library - is it any good?

- The Gilmore Girls revival is next week. I admit, I have a bit of Gilmore fatigue. It went from being a show that was shared among a select group of diehards who were glued to the CW in the early 2000s to being this phenomenon that everyone knows and not to be too much of a hipster, but it was more fun when the fanbase was smaller. I should be happy that something so great has been shared with the masses but honestly, I feel a little Gilmore-d out. That said, if anyone ruins Seasons for me, I'll cut you.

- The election, you guys. I keep trying to inform myself from different sources, read more, and form my own opinions based on more than articles that are shared on Facebook (because didn't you hear? They're mostly fake). I signed up for a washingtonpost.com digital account (free with my .edu email address!) and actually try to read articles that interest me, or those that sound slanted, or things with which I feel like I don't agree. Maybe it's confirmation bias, but doing these things still has be deeply concerned about the next four years.

- Onto lighter things: the show Search Party starts on Monday on TBS. Andrew and I went to a screening for the pilot when we went to the ATX TV Festival over the summer and both really, really liked it. It kind of had the self-aware tone of Girls with less sex and more of a plot. They're playing the entire series in a row so you can set your DVR and binge at will.

- Everything that I want to post about in bullet point form (like the amazing Adele concert and finding a new, hidden coffee shop) I've posted about on Instagram lately so here's a reminder to follow me there if you don't already. How do you feel about Instagram stories? Not gonna lie, I love seeing who has viewed mine yet never ever seems to like any of my photos.

- I'm trying to "like" more lately. Like more instagram posts, more tweets, more cute photos of people's kids or pets on Facebook. Those damn digital hearts shouldn't have meaning, but isn't it sometimes nice to get a little acknowledgement? On a blogging note, I've been reading a lot and commenting less. Time to spread that liking over to this area a whole lot more (and, um, maybe respond to comments from weeks ago? Eeek.).

- Thanksgiving. For the first time in over ten years, Andrew and I are hosting. It's his family, which is thankfully much, much smaller than mine and there will only be 11 of us, total. And, my brother-in-law went to culinary school so Andrew has a sous chef far more skilled than I am. And we'll spend Black Friday eating BBQ because of course we will. At least he isn't cooking that, too.

Why is it that I always think I have so much to blog about but by the time I sit down to put thoughts into words, my mind is blank? Tell me I'm not alone. Also, John Mayer has new music out today and since much of my musical taste is held over from 2003, I'm pumped. Linking up with Kristin and Joey for Stuff and Things.


Thursday, November 10, 2016

post election post

You need more election thoughts like you need another picture of a red Starbucks cup, but I need to get this out of my head so that I can process and move on. This is one for me, not for you.

At first, I was with her because I was for anyone but Trump. As the race went on, though, I started to feel like I was more with her. Yes, the email situation was bad. Yes, Benghazi is a whole score of things that went wrong and there is blame on many, many people. But there were things she said and was going to work on that are important to me.

I respect your right to own guns, but I don’t think you need a semi-automatic weapon. I work in a school. I get messages about “troubled” students we need to be on the lookout for. Every time I’m reminded of the uniformed officers who patrol my campus, who are fathers and mothers working this extra job to help their families, I send up good thoughts that they never have to put their lives on the line to save mine. I stood with the candidate who was going to work to get the most dangerous weapons out of the general public’s hands.

You may not realize it, but I’m half Mexican. I never had much of a racial identity growing up; I was definitely raised identifying as white, but normally felt not white “enough.” I’ve had people say derogatory things about the Latino community in my presence when they didn’t know my last name. Luckily, my grandparents were born here so I pass Ann Coulter’s test. But crazy people on the streets don’t know that. If they see my darker-complected grandmother or aunt or father walking around, I fear that those who support our future president will harass them or threaten to deport them, simply because our leader seems to think that’s okay. There is absolutely nothing in my heritage that gives my family more of a right to be here more than someone trying to come to America today (but perhaps there’s a prize for getting here first? May I remind you that it does not say RSVP on the Statue of Liberty). I also – since I look like your average Caucasian – feel the need to apologize to the people of color I encounter on a daily basis, out loud, even if I don’t know them that well. I’m sorry that it seems that so many in my race failed you and didn’t take your actual daily struggles into account.

I’m with her because I couldn’t be with him. I couldn’t support a man who would decry an entire religion based on the actions of some. Are we going to stop allowing white men in public? They seem to commit the most mass shootings, after all. I believe marriage is between two people who love one another. Period. I believe a woman has the right to control her own body, whether it’s from the unwanted advances of a man or an unwanted pregnancy. I believe in America as a land of opportunity and that there should be a path to citizenship for good people. I don’t believe in breaking families up through deportation and I don’t think a wall is the answer to the war on drugs or illegal weapons. I admit, I believe in these things SO MUCH that yes, I was able to overlook any flaws that Hillary Clinton has. And there are many. She IS human after all. No candidate has ever been perfect. A certain amount of trickery is always involved in getting things done in government. Haven’t you seen Lincoln?

I will find it hard to support Mr. Trump in the next four years. I believe that the 16 women who spoke out against his treatment toward them were speaking the truth. Men of America, please know that sexual assault isn’t something someone would claim for attention. I do think his financial privilege puts him at a disadvantage when dealing with most of America, his quick temper will cause him to spend more time apologizing than getting things done, and his ugly rhetoric will continue to incite his most ardent supporters and disappoint those of us who don’t see the same version of America he so clearly does. I have never before wanted to be wrong about a person so badly, though, and I definitely hope to be proven wrong.

Let me be clear: Democrats aren’t “whining” because their candidate lost the election; they are feeling lost and helpless in their home country because the president-elect has made promises to do things that will disenfranchise them moving forward. His worldview seems to indicate to him that Latinos work for him and the black community is limited to inner cities. He may nominate a Supreme Court Justice who will tip the Court into overturning longstanding cases, or encourage additional profiling based on ethnicity or religion, or hell, he may even push a button in a briefcase just to prove he can. We don’t know now, but we do know we don’t want to live in that world. People have rioted for far less; at least this time, it’s more. We are also afforded the right to peaceful protest, and I hope that Mr. Trump sees these groups and what they stand for and takes them into account when January 20th rolls around.


But this is America and democracy is king, so we have to move on. I have hope in those who will stand up for what’s right, even if it’s against the President. I have hope in this wakeup call so that we all begin seeking and respecting different viewpoints. I was under the impression most Americans, regardless of party, thought Trump was a joke; clearly, I was wrong. So was the media and the pundits and the late night show joke writers. But we all still have to go to our jobs and love our families and live our lives. It’s now our burden to do it in a way that shows increased love, tolerance, and strength in order to combat whatever lies ahead.