Tuesday, November 28, 2017

add it to my list: christmas edition

I felt like the Christmas creep was stronger than ever this year with people posting their Christmas trees on twitter on like, November 1st (WHAT?) so it felt like it took forever for Thanksgiving to end and for it to finally be time for decking the halls. In August, my Christmas-loving husband started saying we should get a new tree. As the main decorator in our house (and also, the cheap one), I had no idea why we would need a new tree, but Home Depot sales and Andrew's enthusiasm got the best of me and, well, we can barely reach the top of our new tree, but it looks great. It's really full and seemed like the best I could find for the price. I'll send you the rec if you're in the market.

Anyway, all of that to say that I am totally in the Christmas spirit this year. Add to it that my old job was super stressful in December and my current one isn't and I feel like I can really enjoy the holidays. So, why not have a Christmas-themed edition of Add It To My List?

If somehow you are reading my blog for the first time, let me know and I will share the linkup origin story. For those who have linked up before, this may be the last one ever due to my laziness in blog life (though, to be fair, Bre and I still email one another things to do/try/watch so....). We will see what 2018 brings!

Christmas Traditions:

- Hot cocoa. Williams Sonoma's is the best in my opinion and though it is expensive, it's like, four trips to Starbucks and makes probably eight cups. We drink a ton in December, with whole milk and marshmallows because Christmas only comes once a year.

- Finding the good lights. Every year at Christmas, I search area Facebook posts to find people who go all out with their lights and Andrew and I visit all of them and park outside for an extended period. It never gets old.

- Pier 1 Li Bien Ornaments. When we were young and broke, it felt like a huge splurge to spend $10 on a Christmas tree ornament when the ones from the dollar store hung on the tree just fine. I don't remember how this started -  I think I just thought one of these ornaments was so pretty that I had to have one - but every year since, we go to Pier 1 at the start of the Christmas season to pick out an ornament for the year. It's one of my favorite things. This year, we got the cozy kitty.

- DVRing Rudolph off of TV and watching it while we do something Christmas-y. I know we could buy the DVD and it's probably streaming somewhere, but for whatever reason, Rudolph has to have commercials. We record it every year (it's on tonight) and I insist on poorly singing all the songs because who doesn't want to hear me use my falsetto when singing Clarice's solo?

- Watching Love Actually while I wrap presents. I think I started this because I have it on my iPad and Andrew hates it but now it has to happen.

- And I think we started a new Black Friday tradition, at least when we are in town by ourselves (since some years we travel, and others his family is here). For the second time in three years, we have picked a restaurant that is normally on the expensive side and had lunch there between running errands. A good meal for cheaper at a time when no one else cares about lunch? It's perfect.

And since it isn't a list without some things to buy... here are things to add to your Christmas list, to give or get.

Dr. Bronner's Lip Balm - Someone posted about this in the linkup forever ago and I couldn't find it so I had to get it from Amazon. The orange ginger is a fun change and the unflavored one is truly unflavored. I love them all.

Double Decker Keds - I love Toms and I think they are really comfortable. I really wanted the Rifle Paper Co. triple decker floral Keds, but they looked really platform-y online. I tried some double deckers on at DSW and they were SO comfortable that I needed them. They have a ton of support and are insanely comfortable plus they are really affordable. The only drawback is the ones I got snag really easily but I can live with it.

No-Show Socks - I wore the aforementioned Keds to South Dakota and froze. I ended up at Target and a coworker (who lives in the midwest) said that socks would make a difference. I was doubtful but thought it couldn't hurt. My feet became infinitely warmer and these have little plastic things on the heel that keep them in place. I never would have bought them without being that cold and now I'm glad I did.

I'm excited to see what's on your list!

Thursday, November 16, 2017

thinking about

I have a lot in my head and it can't all be conveyed in tweets and texts. I hate posting on Facebook. I see friends but in person it doesn't always spill out, either. I am starting to miss my work friends, and having someone always nearby to spill the latest thought out to. That combined with not making time to blog just feels like I always have something to say and nowhere to say it.

On blogging
I just need to not care and write what I want and publish when I want and be fine. I need to not feel compelled to follow or comment on someone else's post because they comment on mine and feel like that is an okay decision to make. Doing that - so much reading out of obligation - stopped making this fun for me. It was another thing on the to do list.

But how do you like to keep in touch with your blog friends? I mean I feel pretty connected to many people and I miss our interaction and even if I read a post and choose not to comment (I know, I should comment), I miss that bit of interaction. Twitter is fine but I don't want to be the creeper responding to every tweet (just half, probably) and not enough people instagram story the things I want to see. Is instagram enough? Am I the needy friend here?

On South Dakota
I went to South Dakota for work a few weeks ago and it was an amazing opportunity. I was supporting a summit for the Native community and I learned so much. Like I knew Thanksgiving was a crock of garbage and I realized that the Dakota Access Pipeline was a terrible idea but witnessing these people who have been marginalized for hundreds of years working to keep their cultures alive despite extreme poverty was just... incredible? Inspiring? It was so interesting. We live in a world full of Instagram and wanting the latest, cool thing while these people work so hard to preserve the tradition of their ancestors because that is what's important to them. We went to an area that has a daycare with teachers and elders so that their language doesn't die off. They also have a workforce commission (providing jobs) to build affordable homes so that Native people don't leave the reservation to get an education and then never return because there is no housing. Reservations aren't viable communities so it's nearly impossible to get a bank mortgage. People have to leave where they grew up to further decay so that they can get ahead in life.

I saw a real Powwow and there was no other word to describe it than beautiful. Photos didn't do it justice. I learned about community and welcoming everyone and so much more about inclusivity and reservation life. Oh, and I read Sherman Alexie's You Don't Have To Say You Love Me and it was fascinating. Don't let the poetry scare you off - it was a great book for me to read to and from this trip.

One of the speakers was a water protector and we watched half of this video (SO hard to watch) and again... this is our country? The pipeline isn't the answer, and I can't claim to know what is, but attacking humans who are peacefully protesting with tear gas and attack dogs definitely isn't helping anything.

On the iPhone X
It was literally $2 more per month and my old phone had issues like not connecting to my provider's network, so I upgraded. I like the size of it (larger than my 6, smaller than a plus) and the amount of space so I don't have to delete apps anymore. I haven't used the camera and the animojis are fun for like five minutes but then that wears off. The facial recognition has been hard to get used to, but not as hard as I thought. Getting rid of the home button was a way easier switch than I thought. Just my two cents since I haven't seen many real people talk about it.

On the state of the world
It continues to be a dumpster fire. Okay, so I will admit that I am not always the most news-savvy person and my interest has increased in being aware the past two years. I was in second grade when Clinton was elected president but how did I not know there were some pretty intense rape allegations against him? I knew 45 invited a rape accuser to one of the debates but these allegations were fully glossed over and I think it's pretty justifiable in light of recent events to revisit this. I mean, there are enough awful men in the world but I feel like this is worth our time. And I know I linked to wikipedia because it's the easiest overview but I have done some reading that is pretty damning... if you have a solid defense, I would love to see it.

On Good People
I should save this for Add It To My List, but I tweeted it anyway so it's fine. In the past week, I have listened to the Fresh Air podcast episode with Pete Souza (Obama's official photographer who throws amazing shade) and the Oprah Super Soul Conversations podcast with Joe Biden, which... Joe Biden is like the wise uncle we probably all want. He seems so wonderful and he said his son was his soul and the way he talks about the people he loves is great. And I missed Oprah and her interview style, though she does put words in people's mouths sometimes and that is distracting. It was still great, though. Both of them just reminded me of how easy it was to have a president who didn't take us to the brink of nuclear war using twitter alone... Also, John Lewis needs his voice amplified for as long as he is around. What a human.

On being perpetually awkward
I went to Ulta this weekend to use a birthday coupon and grab a Christmas gift and they were doing an in-store event with It Cosmetics. I thought I should treat myself and let them make me look good and just buy the damn product. So despite slightly insulting me ("are you looking for maybe a better eyebrow pencil color? Are you moisturizing in the morning AND at night?" [Lady, I work from home, I brush my teeth and that's it...]) the anti-redness powder and foundation worked and the eyebrow pencil seemed legit. I picked what I wanted to buy and then "shopped around" so I could peek at the prices because OF COURSE they weren't marked. Couldn't find the price on one so I did a google and thought I knew. Well, I got to the register and I was wrong. I had sticker shock and just couldn't spend the money. I mean I have the money and my husband doesn't care but the point was like... just why is it so expensive and can't something from Target do the same thing? Anyway, so I awkwardly at the register mumbled something about "never mind, guess I'll add these to my Christmas list" and scurried out. And now I need a new Ulta to shop at.

This is a wall of text that was mostly just for me but this is what it's like in my head lately - a bit scattered and a mix of the serious and mundane. Maybe now that I have a phone that works and can hold photos, I'll take more.

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

add it to my list: october 2017

When you barely blog for three-ish months, all of your images disappear (again) and so please excuse my mess... I'll fix it one day.

I have been keeping a list of things to share and haven't posted a "regular" Add It To My List post since... July?? So it's time. This post is late going up because once you stop blogging regularly, it is hard to get back. That's a post for another day, though.

If you choose to link-up, it would be great if you left Bre and me a comment and clicked around to meet others but being that I am a terrible host, these rules are flexible.

Anyway... on to the recs!

Add It To Your Watch List:

The World Series: The Houston Astros will WIN the World Series if they win the game tonight. The whole city is excited, even more post-Harvey, and the team is young and fun to watch - there is tons of energy and enthusiasm and lots of choreographed handshaking. If you're marginally interested in baseball, you should watch (and support Houston, not that other team).

The Bold Type: Need a fun, escapist show with some social awareness, ridiculous outfits, and female friendship? Watch this show. It's a little like Younger, a little bit Sex and the City, and super topical. I didn't expect to like it as much as I did. In short, three friends work together at a magazine in NYC and navigate relationships, work stress, and supporting one another. It's worth checking out.

Mr. Mercedes: This show got no buzz but it was so great! It was based on a Stephen King book in which a retired cop is still (mentally) haunted by the case he never solved and then starts being threatened by the killer in real life. It isn't science-fiction and it is very messed up but it was a show I looked forward to watching weekly. I think you can only watch it if you have DirecTV or AT&T, though.

The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel: This show was an Amazon pilot that I checked out last year and the full season is out at the end of November. It was created by Amy Sherman Palladino who created Gilmore Girls, but is really nothing like it; it takes place in the 50s and is about a woman who gets a divorce and decides to be a stand-up comedian. It sounds weird, but it left me with a warm and fuzzy feeling and I am really excited for the whole season.

Add It To Your Wish List:

.38mm pens: This is Bre's fault. She gave me one and then I won some at the Bujo and Brunch she put together and now they are all I want. Something about a super pointy pen makes my handwriting look.... crisper? I don't know but anything .7 feels like a marker now.

Add It To Your... Things to Do List

Recipes from Iowa Girl Eats: I think I have said before that it is often hard to cook for my husband. He went to culinary school. He's pretty picky. Also, I have no kitchen skills. These recipes are made with real ingredients, so they do take some prep time cutting, but none of them are hard and most of the ones I have tried have been added to our regular rotation. We especially love the Mediterranean chicken chickpea bowls and the gnocchi and chicken sausage vegetable skillet.

I would add more, but it is my birthday and I do what I want. Oh, and I guess it's Halloween for the rest of you - enjoy!

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

add it to my list: september 2017

Sorry to not come through with a list today and not like anyone needs them, but I have good reasons. I definitely want to check out what you guys are adding and I want to get back to posting shows and make-up and recipes in October to celebrate mine and Bre's birthday month. Why don't you link up today, read each other's lists, leave a comment with Bre, and expect me back better than ever in October??

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

show us your books: august 2017

I added a reading tracker to my bullet journal which really made me set aside time to read daily (I told you, my love of checkboxes runs deep). However, I had about two weeks post-Harvey where I didn't care about my bullet journal or reading or anything, and it shows. Here's to better habits with what's left of September.

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo - I am a total TJR fangirl so my expectations for this book were sky high. It was fine. It kept my attention well enough, but I didn't love it like I love her other books. It was missing the fun little details that make the characters relatable and it was about a movie star who was not relatable at all. I don't not recommend it, but if you haven't exhausted all of her other books, go there first. I just didn't care enough about any of the characters in this story for much of it to stick with me.

The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl - Issa Rae created Insecure on HBO and her book is about her upbringing, dealing with her Sengalese parents, being black, and some awkwardness. Truth? I liked it while I was reading it but I don't remember much about it. It wasn't told in a linear way, which probably affected my perception a lot.

Holding Up the Universe - I was in the mood for something kind of mindless and easy and this book was perfect. I finished it in three nights. If you don't mind teen angst and want some faith in the next generation restored, it's a cute story. A girl once called "America's Fattest Teen" and a boy who can't recognize faces become an unlikely couple (spoiler alert, but it's a teen book, so what did you expect?). I appreciated the lack of terminal illness, I can say that for sure.

Columbine - You should not read a book about a national tragedy while your city is being pummeled with a natural disaster. This was not a good choice on my part and as such, I had to force myself to get through the last 50 pages. If you know next to nothing about Columbine, read this. I was in middle school when it happened and didn't realize how much I didn't know. It talks about the events leading up to the shooting, humanizes the victims, compiles what is known about the parents, and talks about how the investigation was full of mistakes and the media got the whole story wrong. Eric and Dylan weren't bullied, did you know that? I learned so much reading this, even though it was hard to get through. It was very well done, even though it was emotionally draining at times.

I need to start keeping notes about books since I always forget how they made me feel when it's time to write these posts... Linking up with Steph and Jana.

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

add it to my list: august 2017

Hi again.

I have to admit, I feel like more newscasters in my life have been wrong than have been right. I thought I was wasting my time grocery shopping on Thursday and I didn't really think I would miss work Monday. I thought some roads might be impassable. I didn't imagine boat rescues and tents on rooftops and a convention center filled with people and other shelters at capacity all over the city.

And then Harvey came and while I'm still optimistic, my heart hurts and I have spent the past few days worrying about my family and friends and glued to the news. I don't have the desire to tell you what make-up or TV show I have loved lately but as the water recedes, I will need to know about all of those things from you. So please tell Bre and me what to add to our lists. As native Houstonians who love this city, I hope you understand when today, all we want to share with you are things that are Harvey-related that you may want to add to your list.

This poem that is wonderful and amazing and everything I love about Houston (favorite line: you can fill up our bayou/ but you can never rain/ on our parade). Please read it.

Facebook can be used for good. During this storm, I have been able to track flooded areas, find out who is safe, and give others peace of mind. That said, when this is over, I'll go back to my silence.

Look out for those around you. Whether it's providing an emotional push, your time, your money, or help cleaning up in the aftermath, people are scared right now. Being there is invaluable.

If you have the desire and the means to donate to Harvey Relief, here are some places Bre compiled and I would recommend:

My personal favorite and where my charitable dollars go - The Houston Food Bank (Every dollar is THREE meals, y'all)
http://www.houstonfoodbank.org/ >> The Book Group is matching donations to the food bank up to $2K so if you decide to donate to them, do so now and email your receipt to info@thebookgroup.com. I did it last night!

Mayor Sylvester Turner's Harvey Relief Fund - where the mayor is directing corporations to send major gifts, but anything helps:

JJ Watt's Fund (though there is no indication of who is running this and where proceeds will go)

Thanks for listening and for asking how I am and for sending good thoughts to my city. We're gonna be okay. Now please, go see what one another loves and give Bre and I some time to get back to you. We're both really excited to add some fun things to our lists!

Monday, August 28, 2017

harvey, from a houstonian

I've spent the past few days watching Harvey take over Houston. Roads I travel down daily are being navigated by boat. People are being told if they take shelter in their attic, they need to have an axe so they can cut themselves through the roof. 911 was over capacity. Nevertheless, we persisted.

A shelter was set up to give people a place to sleep and a warm meal and they were allowed to bring their pets. Because after going through the ordeal of saving myself from my flooded and destroyed home, I sure as hell wouldn't leave them behind.

This tweet that suggested that an image of a police officer rescuing two children from waist-deep flood waters take the place of the confederate statues that need to come down.

The fact that people are being rescued from their roofs via helicopter and brought to safety in the middle of a freeway. The freeway is too flooded to use for cars, so it's being put to a new use.

Hundreds of people braved closed roadways to take their boats on rescue missions for strangers.

A furniture store became a temporary shelter full of mattresses and hot meals (and they let you bring your pets, too).

People wonder why we didn't evacuate. There are just too many of us. Over two million people on a limited number of freeways over the course of two days (and it actually started raining on Friday, a day early) would have led to far too many of us being stuck in this. So we did what we could - depleted the bread, milk, and canned goods from grocery stores, stocked up on D batteries, and hunkered down. And a whole lot of us are okay. We're the lucky ones.

I'm in awe of how the community came together. The news people were phenomenal in telling people's stories and delivering updates without being overly dramatic. Space City Weather kept people calm and informed as the worst of the rain happened. Technicians for the power company kept the majority of the population with electricity. The first responders ran on fumes to help as many people as possible and the amount of help from other cities is amazing.

But still, my heart hurts. I know it's just stuff at the end of the day but if everything I worked for in my adult life was gone, I would feel a true loss. I can't imagine how lonely it must be to be scared on a rooftop or calling for help that takes hours to come while I had no access to news to see when the next band of rain was going to arrive.

All I could do was watch and hope I wasn't affected. So far, I wasn't. Thank you to anyone who reached out somehow to check on me and my family - that truly meant so much. I love this city, despite its sprawl and concrete and mosquitos - it's my home. I hope that the way we react to Harvey and the way we treat each other helps the rest of the country see why.

I couldn't let Harvey pass without some thoughts. I'll be back with silliness tomorrow for the Add it to my list linkup.

Thursday, August 24, 2017


Is Thursday still the day no one blogs? I prefer to make my schedule Tuesday and Thursday, but if no one writes, does no one also read? I think Steph started this forever ago (maybe influenced by Stephanie?) and I saved it as a draft. Thanks for an easy post as I make my list for hurricane-preparedness (more below). Fellow Houstonians, stay safe!

Three things I'd never give up
- Dessert
- My cat
- Caffeine

Three favorite ways to eat vegetables

- Roasted zucchini
- The cauliflower at Coltivare (come to Houston, I'll take you)
- In a sheet pan dinner. They are just so easy.

Three shows I watched faithfully from beginning to end while they aired
- Gilmore Girls
- Friends
- Ugly Betty

Three places I want to visit inside the US

- Seattle
- San Diego
- Portland

Three places I want to visit outside the US

- Italy
- Greece
- Ireland

Three things I always have with me

- Lip balm
- My wedding ring (um, it doesn't come off)
- A hair tie or bobby pin

Three things that are always in my car

- Trash (just paper, but I'm a mess)
- At least three "dots" worth of gas on my gas gauge (I am weirdly afraid of running out)
- Something to return to a store or something that needs to go back into the house

Three most recent phone calls were to/from

- A coworker
- My dad
- Andrew

Three books I read and loved in college

- Nickel and Dimed
- Black Like Me (this is where my love of sociology started, clearly)
- Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (what? I took AP classes so no college English and this came out right before my last semester so it totally counts)

Three most often used makeup products

- Mascara
- Eye liner
- NYX Matte Not Flat powder

Three things that make me laugh

- Cat gifs
- My husband's terrible puns
- The Office, but only during the Michael Scott years

Three things on my actual hurricane preparedness list
- Water
- Queso
- Pirate's Booty (priorities...)

Three things that happened this week
- I had food poisoning for the first time ever, three hours from home. It was not a fun ride home but I'm grateful it didn't strike Andrew, too.
- There was a drug dealer living at the end of my street and I saw the SEVEN police cars sneakily come down our cul-de-sac to bust him (!!!).
- I spent four and a half hours at a coffee shop with friends having brunch and working on our bullet journals like a bunch of crafting squatters (but it was so fun).

Three things I want you to know
- Bullet journaling is a whole thing and I didn't want to fill my regular account with it so I started a second instagram account for all things bullet journal related - @brunchandbujo if you're into that.
- A tropical storm is headed to Houston and if it affects me seeing Coldplay tomorrow or seeing my cousin in town from Phoenix on Saturday (or you know, floods people's homes and causes damage), I'm going to be really mad.
- Tuesday is the Add It To My List linkup with me and Bre! Link up with us and share your current favorite things. The other day I said I liked something and Andrew said "Better add it to your list..." so I did. And I plan to share it with you, provided I don't float away this weekend.

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

better late than never: atx television festival, season six

In June, Andrew and I went to the ATX Television Festival for the third consecutive year. I posted about season four here, and I have a draft of season five that I never published, and I'm bummed not to have finished writing out those memories. I took actual notes over season six, so I thought I might share them.

I find the ATX Festival hard to describe to people. It's for people who really like TV; who talk about it with others and think about it long after a show is over, who are moved to feeling different ways by the music chosen or the way an episode is shot. It's a celebration and appreciation of the people who make it (in front of and behind the camera). It takes place from Thursday afternoon though Sunday afternoon at a few different venues (nearly all in walking distance!) in Austin, Texas. You make friends with people in line and talk to a lot of strangers, in person and on twitter. I love it.

I'm not going to get into the details of festival tickets, but we always get a weekend badge which I think is a steal for what you get. The programming is a mix of panel discussions (with behind the scenes people, actors, or both), screening opportunities, script readings, an outdoor party, a Saturday night main event, and themed events in the lounges with free food. Every year, I have loved a different part.


2017 was the year of the screening for me. I got a chance to watch the premiere of Ghosed with Adam Scott and Craig Robinson and then they chatted a bit about the show. To be honest, I didn't love the show - network TV is not my favorite - but I may give it another try. It was just fun to see Ben Wyatt and Darryl Philbin (had to google that one - he's from The Office) in person. I also checked out Glow (loved the first ep, didn't love the season), Snowfall (liked the first ep but it's still on my DVR), and Loudermilk (definitely giving this a shot when it airs). It was so cool to check these out before anyone else, and at each one, members of the cast were there in person to talk about the show after you watched it. Alison Brie is tiny in real life. Ron Livingston will forever be the guy from Office Space. Fun fact, they screened The Bold Type at the festival and while I didn't go, all the good stuff I heard made me watch it and it's a great summer show. There was also a panel with the season four premiere of Younger and I can tell you that Josh and Charles are just as good-looking in real life. I don't how how Liza will ever choose.


I tend to love panels because they are like podcasts come to life. I love hearing the thought behind different shows and the moderators are TV journalists who ask great questions. My favorite panel this year was with the creators of The Americans. Andrew and I had just binged that and caught up to the current season so hearing about the world of Elizabeth and Phillip and how it's created by a former CIA employee was fascinating. They keep a timeline in the writers' room to make sure they are historically accurate! Panels cover all different things from diversity on TV, how writers got their start from another writer, or the cast of a show talking about the season that just aired. I want to be best friends with Justin Simien, the creator of Dear White People and I wish I liked Julie Plec's shows (Vampire Diaries, iZombie) because I have attended a panel with her each year and she is just so funny and down-to-earth. One panel that was especially good was with some of the cast of Sneaky Pete (the siblings) and they played pivotal clips from the season of each character and then talked to them about it so if you had never seen the show, you would still get it.

One big draw for me this year was a This Is Us panel. It was supposed to be Milo Ventimiglia and Mandy Moore, but a few weeks before, they swapped Mandy Moore for Chrissy Metz, which still sounded great. The show's creator was supposed to be there, too, along with the president of programming at NBC. Well, Chrissy Metz was sick so she didn't come, and the creator had to stay in L.A. to work, so it ended up being Milo Ventimiglia and the president of programming. There was no announcement to this beforehand, and people missed other festival programming so that they could get in line for this. It wasn't the end of the world, but honestly, since This Is Us is such a tight-lipped show, nothing was said during the panel that I hadn't read before. So, that was kind of a bummer, but there was still a ton that I enjoyed.


This year, the sponsored perks were fantastic. The first year we went to the festival, I wanted to go to all of the events and I didn't take time to eat and got hangry. Last year, we realized that we could take breaks and still get our money's worth and we had a good time (and I packed snacks). This year, there were tons of sponsored events with free stuff and we didn't have to pay for many meals. I especially enjoyed a themed breakfast one day with a taco bar and mimosas - all for free. If you made time to stop by the lounge and paid attention to the schedule, there was so much food.

Other things to know

The first two years we attended, we went to script readings: one of the Dawson's Creek pilot and the other of The O.C. They are gender swapped and performed by actors you've likely seen before and were highlights for both Andrew and me both years. This year's was Suits, which we have never watched, so we skipped it. The festival focused on past, current, and upcoming programming. There was a panel with Pete and Pete this year that I would have loved to check out and the main event was a Battlestar Galactica reunion. There is something for everyone; I think the key is knowing if you like to sit in ballrooms and take things like this in all day, and if there's enough for you to justify the (very reasonable but not insignificant) price. This is not a fan fest with photo ops with celebrities. Most people will take a photo in a panel, but if you see a celebrity in a venue, it's common to just say hello, not immediately ask for a selfie. Andrew and I saw Damon Lindeloff walking down the street and as much as I know he would have loved to talk to him about Lost, we just let him go about his day.

After leaving ATX Festival, I have a renewed love of TV. I want to talk about it and think about it and I appreciate it so much more. I want to travel back in time and make my high school self dream of becoming a TV writer. It really is a good time. I'll be back in 2018.

Thursday, August 17, 2017

how i use my bullet journal

I'm a forgetful person, and my brain is a mess of things I could and should do. If there are too many things in there, I get overwhelmed and do nothing. Oh, and I really like office supplies.

That's why bullet journaling is my new favorite thing.

 I took pics with my new pencil bag and used my dinosaur succulent planter as a prop... such a good blogger, right?

When I first heard about bullet journals, I heard about things like keys and collections and future logs. It all sounded really complicated. Plus, who has the time to sit there and draw a grid for a calendar? So I ignored it until I spent an afternoon at Michael's with Bre and she told me all the fun things I could buy if only I started a bullet journal. After going down the rabbit hole of #bujo on instagram and finding a ruler and notebook I already had, I was ready to get started. All you need is that and some pens to see if this system will work for you.

Sections in my bullet journal

The beauty of this is that there's no right way to do it. I don't use a key. Collections is a fancy name for lists of things and a future log is just things that you're going to do... in the future. There are no #bujo graders or checkers so you really can do anything. That was really overwhelming for me, so I just thought more about what I wanted from a planner:

1) A monthly outlook so I could see at a glance what the month was like (basically, a calendar page)
2) Weekly spreads to write in to-dos, appointments, details for upcoming events, and track things like workouts or little accomplishments like chores I give myself
3) A place to keep lists of things I want to remember, by category
4) Somewhere to write what's happening in the far, far future (for example, we are going on vacation in the spring but I need to write down the dates)

The more I looked at other people's journals, the more that creating my own clicked for me.

Planning for the Future

When I realized this was something I wanted to keep up with, I bought a Leuchtturm dotted journal since blank pages make straight lines difficult and lined pages were too distracting. It has two bookmarks, numbered pages, and an index page at the front so I can log what I have on each page rather than flipping through the whole journal.

Yearly outlook on the left (it continues on the next page, and then there's a birthday page) and my year in pixels, so far. Looks like I have had a good amount of good days!

The first thing I created was my future log for the next year. It's a small calendar of the next twelve months with a space to write down any upcoming events. As I make my monthly spreads, I can make sure to document important dates there. I also made a page for birthdays - maybe now I will finally get around to sending cards on time.

I also have a Year in Pixels tracker in the front of my journal. I have a grid that has the next 12 months and a spot for each day as well as a color-coded key. Each day, I give my day a label and color in the corresponding color so at a glance, I can tell how things are going for me. I can likely compare the colors to other things in my journal and get a pretty good idea of what puts me in a good mood vs. a bad one. It will be interesting at the end of the year to see how I rate the majority of my days.

Then, I started on the monthly spreads. I prefer to use two pages so I have plenty of room to write on any date I need to. These can look any way you want. Don't forget that a calendar page should have five weeks on it since there are 30-31 days in most months. Not 28. My first spread was very, very bad.

Unlike my July spread, this one has the right number of weeks. Note the sticker where I wrote something down wrong. The yellow is for blog posts and slightly easier to read in person.

I also added a two-page spread at the beginning of each month where I can write down memories for the month. I have written down something someone said to me that I want to remember, what I did, or how I felt. It's just a sentence or two to document anything worth remembering.

Planning my week

I went a little washi crazy with the spread on the left but it helped to cover a mistake! The one on the right is for the current week, photos taken Tuesday morning.

Every Sunday night, I sit down and work on my spread for the following Monday - Sunday. I like to see the weekend as one full unit and I see Monday as a new start. I like doing them one week at a time because if I don't like the way a layout works, I only have to look at it for a week. I can also adjust my layout depending on what I have happening that week. For example, when I knew I was taking two vacation days last week, my layout was less structured since I didn't think I would be writing many things down. I get all of my weekly spread inspiration from Instagram and then do my own thing with it.

I love color and using pens and washi tape. I am working on brush lettering since this is a good chance to do it. I try to make sure that every spread will still look good if I use a black pen and then an accent color pen and I keep those on my journal's pen loop. If I worked that hard to make my page pretty, I don't want a clashing pen to ruin it! There are all kinds of task managers in bullet journaling, but I don't really use them. I like making a square for any kind of action item and then checking it off when it's done. Some days, I don't have anything to put in for the day so I will use the space as a log of what I did, even if it's just a show I watched or the workout I completed. Again, if I have gone to all of this effort, I might as well use it for something, right?

I also make a small grid tracker every week for habits I'm trying to adopt. There is something about checking off a box that motivates me and gives me a sense of accomplishment. This week, I'm tracking move (aka working out), talking to friends, going to bed by 11, reading, blog time, cleaning for 15 minutes a day, and doing the dishes. Nothing huge, but I feel bad when they aren't all checked off, so I will get up and do that little chore (or go to bed) just so I can check the box!


Try or Buy is for shows and products I hear about (many from the Add it to My List linkup!). The left side of the Blog Post Ideas page are one-time things (like Bullet Journaling) and the things on the right are linkups or posts I can do anytime (like If We Met for Coffee or Currently...). The wine page is the same set-up I use for my monthly memories pages.

I reserved approximately the last third of my journal for lists and notes. For me, this is anything I want to remember - dinner ideas we don't hate, blog post ideas, wines I have liked, things to try or buy, ideas for upcoming vacations, house plans, stuff like that. Some people track books or TV shows, or meal plan, or keep shopping lists in their journals. I prefer not to, but that's the great thing about the system. It's also great for doodling in, writing your goals, packing lists... anything you normally write on a spare receipt or keep in a note on your phone can go in your bullet journal. The lovely thing is that it's all in one place and organized in the way that you work, not in the way that planner makers think you should. I love going digital and having less clutter, but I retain things much better when I write them down.

I know it sounds like a weird instagram fad. I was a total skeptic at first too, but I love the flexibility. I use it more since I actually worked to make it look pretty. I love trips to Michael's to get things to put in it (did I buy stickers that say "gold star adult" over the weekend? Maybe.) and I love never feeling stuck with any part of it since I can always create something else. It also lets me feel a little bit crafty and creative without having to commit to a scrapbook or anything. I am toying with putting ticket stubs and things like that on my monthly memory pages, or getting one of those small, purse-sized printers to capture the things I'm writing about. There's always something new to want to try.

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

if we met for coffee, we would have to talk about charlottesville

If we met for coffee, I would want to keep it light and easy, but these days, how can you?

If we met for coffee, the current state of our country would surely come up. I feel that 95% of the people in my life by choice think that the current administration is a joke, negatively impacts them, and that nearly anyone else could do a better job governing us. I would ask you how you're getting your news, and how you retain it. How are you keeping the facts accurate and straight so that when you're confronted with someone who doesn't think 45 is so bad, you can provide actual rationale other than an eye roll or an inability to speak due to blind rage? I feel that the news comes at us so quickly and all of the bad things mount that it's hard to keep anything straight anymore. It's easier just to avert your eyes until the next bad thing strikes, since it's inevitable that something will. But, burying your head and just saying that "he's the WORST" solves nothing, so one must keep up with the latest insanity.

If we met for coffee, the events of this weekend would come up. There are Nazis living life like it's no big deal in America in 2017. The media is covering the domestic terrorist using assault with a deadly weapon to kill someone as the mere perpetrator of a car wreck. That is not okay. That is not accurate. For some reason, because the victim was a female my own age, just trying to do what she thought was right, this murder feels even more senseless. It shouldn't matter if she was like me or not, but the similarity just highlights that it could have been me or you or any of my friends. This might be the way my black friends feel every time we hear about an innocent, unarmed person being shot by police. I thought I got it before, but I feel like I'm understanding it anew. You can be minding your own business or trying to do the right thing and it can all be gone with your name trending on twitter within the hour.

This whole thing has me thinking about the ways in which we talk about race and class in America. We're told as kids to treat everyone the same, since we're all the same inside. While that's great when you're 4, that doesn't carry over to adult life very well at all. When does the lesson come around that decades of systemic oppression guarantee that your friends who don't look like you are being treated differently by society and that in treating them the same, you aren't helping much? I feel a pull to understand more about others' experiences and I see how our human needs are very similar, but the ways in which we exist in society can be very, very different. But, if you don't actively seek out these lessons by making friends who look different from you and consuming media with people who don't share your background, will you ever learn it at all? People who claim to be colorblind are well-meaning, but they are really just society blind if they think that the color of a person's skin doesn't affect anything about them other than their outward appearance.

I would want to ask you what you're doing about the state of things, and what you want to do moving forward if we met for coffee. I was disheartened a few days ago when someone (a young person) who I care a lot about told me she didn't think Trump was that bad and proceeded to tell me that Obama had secret meetings all the time "with Muslims." I asked her why this mattered and she said "because, Terrorists." I tried to calmly explain that all Muslims aren't terrorists the same way that all white Christian men don't bring guns to school and was met with something like "I'm never going to become a liberal." I'm not sorry for who I am or what I believe and I'm not afraid to stand up for myself, but I do lack the vocabulary and patience to make an argument that doesn't sound like an attack or a condemnation. What I want to do for my 45-supporting friends is at least put a face to that liberal name. To show them that those of us who Fox News paints as poor people grabbing at their money and giving their jobs to Latinos walk among them and are good people who just want to spread some of the goodness around.

I'd want to compare notes on how to handle all of this. Is saying something cliche better than saying nothing at all? What are you doing to condemn bigotry and racism, and what else could or should you do? I think it's a thin line between seeking attention from someone else's tragedy and actually lending voice and importance to a conversation. I hesitate to add more noise to the world. I don't know what to do to step up. So I would just have my coffee with you and maybe we could think of something to do, together.

And I would implore you to listen to the latest episode of Pod Save the People where Deray McKesson interviews UVA students and the governor of Virginia. If you feel like the media is sensationalized, there is nothing better than a firsthand account. I'm not finished with it yet, but I have heard most of it and it's just very real.

Thursday, August 10, 2017

currently {august 2017}

I'm working on good habits and trying to prioritize things I enjoy. And blogging is one of those things, even in the form of a Currently post...

Watching: I love baseball season because there is something on nearly every night (we only watch the Astros) and less of a need to find something to watch. But, when not watching baseball, Andrew and I are watching Ozarks and I'm Sorry. I'm loving Younger and The Bold Type this summer. I didn't expect to like The Bold Type but it's a good lightweight summer show. Watch it for the clothes alone.

Trying: To create good habits. I'm attempting to go to the gym (again - this happens every August), plan healthy-ish meals at home, do a better job of picking up around the house each evening, and to follow through on things I want to do. Instead of thinking "Oh, I should look into that..." I'm getting out my phone and doing the research right away.

Reading: Catching up on Show Us Your Books posts and adding things to my TBR and library hold list. Looking for new bloggers to enjoy and trying to make blog time part of my daily routine.

Enjoying: The rain in Houston has made the hottest part of summer not-so-hot. The push for more honesty on the internet. The last of my beloved Coke Zero. The How I Built This podcast. It's my one must-listen of the week since it's  nearly always a company I've heard of, the host is great, and there is next to no fluff.

Noticing: That I'm happier when I'm social. People can be the worst, but good people can make your day. I try to work from a coffee shop once a week and make sure to text/tweet/email a friend daily. Working from home can be really isolating, and I didn't realize how only IMing work people and scrolling my feed and talking to my husband could make me lonely. The effort to reach out or just be around other people is so necessary for me that it's worth putting on real pants when no one is making me.

Buying: Well, I bought brush pens and lots of washi tape so I'm really trying not to buy any more paper crafting stuff. We've lived in our house for three years in September and I haven't really changed much since we moved in, so I'm itching to get more things for the walls of our bedroom, find a small chest to put under the TV in there, and give the upstairs bathroom a mini-makeover. Nothing yet, but I'll update if I do anything worth sharing.

Thinking About: How to entertain my nieces this week. I'm taking vacation days today and tomorrow since they'll be in Houston. They are 9 and 17 now - quite the age gap to try to do something with both of them. The older one is going into her senior year of high school (how??) so I don't know how often I'll see her going forward... I mean once she's an adult, she won't have to spend time down here anymore. I have tentative plans for getting our nails done, shopping, a fun restaurant, great dessert, and maybe bowling and laser tag. Definitely open to new ideas, though.

Cheers to my long weekend with lots of family time. Fingers crossed that I can at least beat the 9 year old bowling, but I wouldn't count on it...

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

show us your books: july 2017

Don't you hate it when you struggle through a book, hoping it will get good, at it just ruins your desire to read? That's what happened to me this month with The Twelve Lives of Samuel Hawley. It just wasn't for me and made me scroll my phone rather than try to get into it. I let it expire back to the library and once I made picking up a new book a priority, I flew through several over the course of two weeks. And they were good ones.

Second Helpings (Jessica Darling Book 2) - Partly due to Alyssa's urging, I kept reading the books in the Jessica Darling series. Had I read these books as a teenager, I think I would have loved them, but as an adult, they are a little slow and I feel like it takes too long for anything to happen. This book took us through the end of Jess' time in high school, and while I want to take a peek at her college life, I accidentally read the synopses of the last three books on Goodreads and have a good idea how things will end. Oops. So if you are interested in this series, consider keeping it off your TBR. 3 stars.

Behind Closed Doors - I saw this all over this linkup and it's a good read. I wanted to stay up to read it and while it was highly unbelievable, I found that the author did their best to make the plot they created plausible. It's hard to describe the plot without giving anything away except to say it's the story of when a seemingly perfect marriage is quite the opposite. It's close to a thriller, but not quite, and I would recommend it. 4 stars.

It's Okay to Laugh (Crying is Cool, Too) - If you have read my blog for any amount of time, you will know that after discovering Nora McInerny's podcast, I decided I want to be her when I grow up (though she is only a few years older than me). In the span of a few weeks, she had a miscarriage and both her dad and husband died of cancer. This book is her memoir, and though my life hasn't been anywhere near as hard, the way she explains things and writes makes me feel like she has been in my head; does everyone feel the way she and I do, and we are really bad at talking about it? She tells stories about loving someone with a terminal illness, living life after tragedy, and what it was like to fall in love in the first place. I love her voice and I adore this book - I wanted to highlight the entire thing. I never buy books, but I will buy this one, though I'm waiting in hopes that she comes here on a book tour (unlikely but still). 5 (hundred) stars.

Famous In Love - After hearing the author of this series speak on a panel at the ATX Festival, I added this to my TBR. It was made into a TV show that was on Freeform this past spring, and I thought the author seemed interesting, so I wanted to give it a try. It had a love triangle that reminded me of The Hunger Games and an interesting premise - going from a nobody to the star of a much-anticipated book-turned-movie - that I wish had been dug into deeper. That said, I sped through it and will read the next book, and watch the TV show. It's easy, escapist teen drama. 4 stars.

The Hate U Give - I have seen this book a lot of places and was expecting to love it. I was expecting it to be life changing levels of amazing. For what it is - a book written for teenagers about race, police shootings, educational inequity, gun violence, and interracial relations - it's fantastic. For a 30-something expecting an awakening in novel form, it wasn't what I had hoped for. It isn't the book's fault. It's about a teen girl who witnesses her friend being shot by a police officer and everything that happens to her and her neighborhood afterward. There are likable characters, it does a good job of speaking to teenagers in 2017, it deals with heavy subject matter respectfully, and it avoids cliches (or calls itself out on them). I would definitely recommend it to a sheltered teenager, but as an adult, manage your expectations. 4 stars.

I've added reading time as a daily to-do in my bullet journal and I finally have The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo from the library so I expect August to be a great book month. Excited to see what everyone else has read this summer, too.

Linking up with Steph and Jana.

Thursday, August 3, 2017

summer, so far.

August always feels like we're nearing the end of a summer. As a kid in Texas, school started in the middle of the month so once the calendar flipped to August, it was only a matter of time before freedom ended. Though the school calendar has changed and it hasn't affected me directly for quite some time, I find myself ready to be done with summer and embrace fall. It's just too damn hot to want summer to stick around any longer.

But honestly? This summer completely flew by. Allow me to review some highlights:

Memorial Day weekend feels like a lifetime ago, and all I can remember doing is enjoying the fantastic three-course Sunday Supper at State of Grace. The squash casserole sounded wholly unappealing, but I wish I could eat it all the time.

Andrew and I spent our seventh wedding anniversary (and our third in a row) at the ATX Television Festival in Austin, Texas. We had a great Air BnB so we could walk or Lyft everywhere, I saw Milo Ventimiglia IRL for the second time (humble brag? Yup.), saw Adam Scott in person, and came away feeling excited about TV, as usual. I also took part in their twitter contest to go to twenty different things during the festival and they sent me an awesome prize pack with ATX swag, so it was a great experience. I was home for literally a day and then hopped on a plane to Vegas for a work conference.

I know Vegas is the desert and I knew it would be hot but oh my goodness. 110 degrees is no joke. The conference was pretty good (and as an events person, the logistics, food, and swag were incredible) and Andrew came a few days into it since his friend was also in town. I think we have kind of outgrown Vegas, or else we need to have a huge budget to enjoy it more fully, but we loved finally eating at Lotus of Siam (called the best Thai food in America, and it's SO cheap) and seeing the Beatles Love for... the sixth time, I think? I like what I like.

Other June highlights: cutting my hair too short (still mad), being officially asked to be a bridesmaid (first time ever, am I a bad friend?), and the birth of my new niece, Austin.

My sister-in-law was due to have her baby on June 22. She lives in Atlanta, and I had a work event there on July 6th, so Andrew and I decided to fly up there on the 1st since surely the baby would be there by then. Right? Babies are totally predictable and all. Well, Miss Austin decided not to come until June 28, cutting it quite close, but she was safely at home in time to be adored by her aunt, uncle, grandpa, and basically her grandma. My SIL and her husband are saints and let us crash with them for a few days so we could all watch the baby sleep and escape her swaddle. We had a low-key July 4th and learned that we will not kill one another in close quarters, which is good to know since we're all going on vacation together in the spring.

The squash casserole doesn't look like much, but it was amazing | Adam Scott and Craig Robinson aka Ben Wyatt and Darryl from The Office (their new show is eh) | The Bellagio fountains, which never get old | Baby Austin!

After all of that travel, I just wanted to be home in July. Andrew had a birthday which turned out to be a laughably bad trip to the Astros game. It was the epitome of first-world problems, and I can laugh about it now, but in short: it was raining so we were wet and sweaty, our gate ran out of Carlos Correa bobbleheads and when I tried to sneakily get one from another gate, a jerk fan called me out (rude), the area we had tickets in had no seats hours before the game started, and when we decided we would rather just go home, the park security wouldn't let us out until all of the bobbleheads (that they wouldn't give us) were given out. We ended up heading toward the house and getting tacos and it was fine, but in the moment, I felt so bad for suggesting it since it was such a frustrating birthday.

The rest of July? I started bullet journaling (post to follow, probably), I read, I've spent a little time with friends, tried to be a better adult, spilled laundry soap in my car (but it smells great), worried about my cat's impending obesity, went to Home Depot alone (this is huge because I hate that store since I can never find ANYTHING) and went to the movies alone to see The Big Sick. I really liked it and if you like Master of None then go see it. And now we enter the last third of the year. It will be Christmas before we know it.

Linking up with Kristen and Gretch.

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

dear instagram storyteller

Dear Instagram Storyteller,

I realize that no one is making me watch or participate in Instagram stories. I know this. But I can't stop staring at my phone and watching a mini version of the reality show of everyone I follow at least once a day (let's be real, if it's someone I like, it's several times a day.)

But this isn't about those people. This is about the ones I don't like. I may like you on regular instagram, but I can't skip past your stories fast enough. Sometimes I just watch them to see if you are still doing that thing I don't like. Sometimes I catch myself watching them for that reason and step away from the phone to discourage such negativity in my life, but I normally end up finishing the story later. Just being honest. So let's talk about the things that make me feel this way.

First of all, sweet storyteller, we all know you are speaking to a camera. You do not need to start every story with "hey guys" or "y'all!" or "sooo..." or "happy <day of the week>." Intros are not necessary. Just do the thing. I seriously watched a HUGE blogger's story the other day and she started five stories in a row by saying "so" and I wondered how she got where she was.

I would also like to point out that next to no one needs to have 20 pieces to their story. Film it for Facebook, write a blog post about it, but please don't give me 20 snippets of your day. And if all 20 are one long soliloquy about how hard your life is? Girl, find you a friend and talk it through. There is no need for all of us to know all your business. I see more dashes than I can quickly count then I assume I have walked into Instagram Novels and I must leave you behind.

I don't have kids so maybe I shouldn't have an opinion on this next part, but when I hear moms say "What did you just say?" and a kid says something toward the phone, I get a little sad. Can't the kid just be cute and funny in the privacy of your home? Does everyone need to hear what they just did? And sorry, but it's likely only really cute and funny to those who know your kid personally. You can have a google album or something for that, or just be in a moment with the kid rather than making them perform for you and hundreds of people who watch them when they're procrastinating on making dinner or whatever.

Also, can we all agree to chill with the dumb animal face filters? Enough. You're a puppy! You can wear a crown! Haha, so funny! Take a pic like that, send it to your spouse, whatever, but you don't need to tell every story with a koala nose. What do you think that's adding? And don't get me started on the voice change filter. Do you know how awful you sound as a deer? DO YOU? It isn't cute, and we all sound the same like that, and I just wish it would stop.

While I'm ranting, I would like to highlight that I have never in the history of story watching run immediately to your instagram to check out your new post that you teased by hiding it from me in your story. I'm sure there's some class about being the most successful instagrammer ever telling you this is a good idea, but really, it makes me want to intentionally NOT like that post because I am a petty instagram follower. If I like you and follow you already, your stuff is already in my story.

Finally, I have to call both of us out here: concert videos are also highly unnecessary. I know. Concerts are fun and you want everyone to see how great your seats were. Been there, girl. I've posted them, too. And I'm going to a few concerts this month and I'll want to share, but can we agree that like, one video is enough? No one's tinny iPhone speakers are going to do what you're seeing in real life justice, so put down the phone and enjoy those tickets you spent your money on.

Lest you think I'm a total story scrooge, I do like some things: animals, food, snippets of daily life, 15-30 seconds of talk about something random, and shopping along with you. However, I do not like when I have to swipe up to shop (just tell me where you are or where you got it) nor do I really believe that so many people have asked you the same question that you linked to it for my convenience. I know how affiliate links work; let's just have some honesty in our stories, kay?

Whew! I am so glad we were able to get on the same page. If you do these things and I like you, then I still like you. If you see yourself in these things, I hope you laugh about it. If you hate people who use Instagram stories to showcase their cat or what they're eating (right here!), then I fully expect you to call me out in a letter of your own. It's all in good fun but really, had I shared this on Instagram stories, you would have skipped right over it anyway.

Living my best life, 15 seconds at a time,

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

add it to my list: july 2017

Huge thanks to everyone who links up with Bre and me every month! I take recs super seriously (to whoever recommended the Dr. Bronner's lip balm last month, I can't find it and I'm very sad!) so it's fun for me to literally add things to my list and actively think of things you can add to yours.

As always, the rules are easy. Write about things you are recommending to people in real life so that we can add them to our lists of things to try or buy. Link back to me and Bre, show the button if you want, leave us a comment, and then click around to add things to your own list. Done.

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Add it to your Watch List

I'm Sorry - this show is on TruTV, the channel that plays COPS reruns and shows about dumb criminals, BUT it's a scripted comedy about a mom who's a TV writer and her husband and kid. I have only watched two episodes so far but it made me laugh out loud and was out-there funny and dark and also has a precocious but not annoying kid. Check it out.

(Also, can I take Glow off my list from last month? I recommended it too soon. It was just... fine. You no longer need to add it.)

Add it to your Shopping List

Skimmies - I learned about these last summer and they make me want to wear dresses. They're considered "slip shorts" so they keep your dress from clinging to you, smooth you out without being tight, and they're moisture-wicking which is great in summer, especially for someone who thought that no one had a thigh gap until Instagram taught me otherwise. Costco has a good deal on them now (2 for $15!) but you can also get them at Walmart or Target for around $15 a pair.

Bergamot Orange Margaritas - I'm not a standard bar-drink person and I was tired of wine but I wanted something at the liquor store the other day. I saw this pre-packaged Bergamot orange margarita and I was skeptical since normally pre-mixed drinks are a sugary mess, but for $12, it was worth a gamble. It's delicious - tart but not orangey and you can taste the tequila without it being bitter. I've been thinking about it since I finished the bottle the other night. The brand is Austin cocktails, so it's probably easier to find in Texas, but it is available nationwide!

Mrs. Meyers Basil Soap - I'm cheap. I buy store brand soap and it's fine. But after staying at an Air BnB in Austin where they used this soap throughout and wanting to smell my hands constantly, I bit the bullet and bought $6 soap. I mean if you can't buy all-natural cleaning products in your 30s then when can you?

Add it to your Habit List

The 15 Second Rule - Something I read somewhere, probably on the internet, talked about a rule where if something takes x amount of time, you shouldn't put it off; you should just do it. I decided that 15 seconds was a reasonable amount of time and tried to put it into effect a few weeks ago and so far, so good. My kitchen is cleaner and my clutter disappears a little bit faster.

That's it for me. Next month will likely include bullet journaling and its associated supplies, but I'll see if I stick with it before recommending it. Just know that any recs I get from you all will be added to my indexed journal. Oh, and if you don't do so already, you should follow me on instagram. Not only do I post my layouts in my stories, but there are food and cats, too. OH and what do people like to read about in blogs lately? If there's something you like in general (or for some reason care what I think?), let me know. I need a little push to get me writing more regularly.


Tuesday, July 11, 2017

show us your books: june 2017

It's either feast or famine at the library. After my last reading slump ended, I added tons of things to my hold list at the library and had literally six books available within the same two days. Challenge accepted - basically, I read like a fiend. It helps when it's summer and my husband is occupied watching baseball every night and that I've taken two plane rides since the last link-up. There's quite the assortment ahead.

Another Day in the Death of America: A Chronicle of Ten Short Lives - Guns kill a whole lot of kids in our country. We know that stat and watch the news and move on with our lives. A journalist decided to take a look at ten children (the oldest was 19, I think) who all died from a gun in the span of 24 hours. The book is part sociology, part history of each city, part critical look at the circumstances that led to each death (spoiler alert: they were all male and nearly all men of color). One death took place in Houston, near the area where my husband works, and I found the description eerily accurate, so I assume the rest of the book was the same. Some of the victims were wholly innocent, some made poor decisions, but none deserved to die. If you ever needed a human face behind who all those bullets are killing, here it is.

Sloppy Firsts - I think I saw someone on twitter say this was their favorite YA book, so I decided to give it a shot. I appreciated that it took place in high school and was published in 2001 (when I was still in high school), so I could relate to the feel of it - checking caller ID, instant messages, and emails, all things missing in today's YA books. I found the story pretty slow but the narrator likable for the most part, though still annoying in that teenager way. I felt like the book ended just as things started to happen, so I'll read the sequel at least, even if I don't make it through the series of five.

The Roanoke Girls - This book was so messed up. A woman returns to her family's home, where she spent one summer, because her cousin is missing. The book alternates between that summer and the present day with bits of the other Roanoke Girls' stories sprinkled in. It's a messed up book but you will probably keep reading just to see how it all turns out. I did. It was so weird but well-paced and I flew through it.

Small Victories - Nora McInerny (who you know by now that I love) screen shot some of this and posted it to her instagram stories and if Nora liked it, then I had to check it out. You know how you read articles or posts by people who can sometimes see the big lessons in little things? That's this book. It's about grace and forgiveness, trying to be a better human, realizing your own failings, and working on humility. So many things in it resonated with me so much, but by the end I was ready for it to be over. It was too many lessons and too much reflection all in one place.

The Problem With Forever - This was like a Lifetime movie for teenagers. Two kids grew up in an abusive foster home, they manage to get out but separately, and then reconnect their senior year of high school. There's romance and defying parents and love triangles and illness. It wasn't bad, and the main character was likable enough, but I got halfway through this on a plane, which is probably why I finished it. You could probably skip it, especially because there is a character named Rider Stark and I just can't take that seriously.

As Close to Us As Breathing - First of all, this is a great title. This is one of those books where there's a big event that you find out about in the first few pages and the rest of the story is all of the threads of getting to that point and what happened after. It isn't until around 3/4 of the way through the story that you find out what exactly happened on that day. The story follows an extended Jewish family through the summer of the big event, but you learn a lot about what made them who they are and what happened later. It's definitely a character-driven novel. The way the story was told kept me interested, but if you're looking for action, this isn't it.

TL; DR: Another Day in the Death of America is sad but interesting and The Roanoke Girls is screwed up but will likely keep your attention. None of the others were bad, but I'll likely forget them in a week.

I'm excited as always to link up with Steph and Jana and hopefully respond to comments a lot faster this time around (it was bad when I went to write this post over the weekend and realized I didn't respond to June's comments... oops.) And (shameless plug ahead) - if you like talking about things you like in list form, make sure to join me for the Add It To My List link-up the last Tuesday of every month to talk about the things you're loving and recommending to people in real life. Except for books. We save our book talk for second Tuesdays! But I'd love for you to join us on July 25th to talk about TV, podcasts, and everything else!

Thursday, June 29, 2017

someone could have told me

I feel like Nora McInerny is one of the many women I want to be when I grow up. She's not an optimist, but not a total pessimist, either. She's a little offbeat and she speaks in tangents. I feel like she is fiercely loyal to her people and could be the voice in my head that narrates my life, only she is drier and funnier and has dealt with a lot of really hard stuff. I saw this tweet a few weeks ago and listened to the ensuing episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking and have been thinking about it ever since.

So I started thinking about things I wish I had known sooner. Things I wish I had learned before 30ish.

- Like that a job can be more than just a paycheck. You can work in a field you feel passionately about, or do a job that makes a difference. You can be picky in what you do (sometimes, not always) and you don't have to take the first offer.

- A commitment to clean sheets is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

- The greatest gift we can give to anyone is our time. The time to call or text, or hang out, or to run an errand. To sit and listen. I feel like time gets more valuable the older we get; it's a finite resource with more and more stuff competing for it. Isn't it lovely when someone gives you some of theirs, though?

- And on that note, adult friendships. They're hard to come by and take time and effort to maintain. They show their strength easily when life gets inconvenient.  But the people who get you well enough to share a WTF moment or offer advice when you need it are more of a luxury as you get older, whereas they were just a thing that happened when you're young.

- Everyone needs a hobby.

-It's okay if said hobby costs money. I mean, maybe compulsive gambling shouldn't be your hobby but there is more to life than saving money and watching TV every weekend. Having something that gets you excited makes you an interesting person.

- Flossing is important and you will feel so much better in the morning after you do it.

- You will not wake up one day and enjoy cooking or be a morning person or keep a clean home with minimal effort. Lots of things come with aging, but that kind of magic doesn't.

- Ask questions. Be curious. It makes you informed, and interesting, a good friend, a great job candidate, a listener, a critical thinker. So many things become better when you get beyond the surface.

- Sometimes people just need to vent; don't give them your advice unless they ask. Not every problem is meant to be fixed, and not necessarily by you.

- You need goals, even if they are far off or unattainable. They give you direction.

- Cheap wine is not your friend and never will be again.

- Try the food you think you don't like. I didn't like avocado until I was like 24 since I started hating it when I was 5. I wasted so many years and so much guacamole being stubborn.

And that's just a start. Frame of reference is a funny thing, and my perception is colored by my experiences. What seemed like a revelation to me just days ago may be something you were taught your whole life. And vice versa. Tell me, what is something you wish you had known sooner?

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

add it to my list: june 2017

Maybe one day I will get my act together and write one of the many posts in my head and do more than join three link-ups a month. But today is not that day since it's already the last Tuesday of the month and time for Add It To My List with me and Bre.

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Anyway - onto my list!

Add it to your Netflix Queue:

Glow on Netflix: Andrew and I went to the ATX Television Festival earlier this month (recap possibly to come?) and got to screen this show. I loved it. It's set in the 80s, so the costumes and music are great. It's going to have a female, ensemble cast so I don't think there will be many if any lame romance storylines to get in the way. And, it seems different - I mean I've never seen a show set in the world of women's wrestling before. Andrew seemed to like it too, so we are going to watch it together and haven't had time since it came out on Friday but I am really excited to get into it!

Also on a TV note: Master of None is fantastic. I didn't like it much when it first came out, but I picked it up again and wondered what was wrong with me. It's funny but not laugh out loud, realistic yet still unique, and just a TV world I like spending time in. If you want something lighter and fluffier, Younger starts season four this week (on TV Land if you are old school like me and still pay for cable) and I got to see the premiere at the aforementioned festival and it promises to be a fun season.

Add it to your "things to look forward to" list:

Prime Wardrobe: Have you guys seen this yet? Amazon is starting a Stitchfix-esque service for Prime members. Basically you pick out three or more clothing items (it can be womens, mens, or kids), they put it in a box, send it to you, you try it on at home, and are only charged for what you keep. The more you keep, the more of a discount you get. Free shipping both ways. It is missing a Stitchfix stylist, but I'll try my luck with what I pick out and save myself a styling fee. You can sign up to be notified when it's available in your area. Since I'm already in the market of buying clothes on Amazon, I'm excited to check this out.

Add it to your phone:

Ibotta app: This app is legit and I am kicking myself for not using it for so long. You grocery shop every week, so you can get money back every week. You check the app before or after shopping, select what you bought, scan it if needed, take a photo of your receipt, and you get paid. I love that there is often cash back for produce I bought anyway or .25 back from any grocery receipt. You can even access Uber through the app for money back. It also seems to be the first place to feature new snack food, so sometimes I scroll through the offerings and add things to my shopping list because I know it's on Ibotta. I love things that make money off of what I'm spending anyway. (Disclosure, that is a referral link. You get $10 in your account if you sign up using it, which is halfway to redeeming for a reward, so we both win.)

Add it to your shopping list:

Salted Caramel Craze "Trail Mix" at Kroger: This stuff is so bad for you. I shouldn't admit that I eat it. It's SO addictive, though, and satisfies my afternoon sweet craving. I try to just eat a little handful at a time (but sometimes I fail). It has almonds (healthy!), butterscotch chips, chocolate caramel candy, and I think cashews. I put trail mix in quotes because really, it's candy, but everything in moderation, right?

That's all I've got for now - tell me what you're loving this month!